my post on this thread, #158, has photos of my lav orps at 8 weeks old, you can see the difference in the pullets and cockerals quite clearly even at that young age, the cockerals have never had any tails and the pullets have had noticibly longer tails. and the cockerals combs were larger as well. As of now yes all of the pullets have long/narrow tails and the cockerals have virtually no tails still.
any chance you can get some new photos to post? at 16 weeks i think it *should* be fairly easy to tell? though since they are still very much a "project" color i suppose depending on the line they are from they will look and mature at different rates.
ETA: in the photos on poast 158, i had sexes correct, but i was told to keep an eye on the last pullet (back of photo) in the photo of the "lavender pullets" shot with the 4, as it could have been a slow developing cockeral. i was very happy it was not. also at 8 weeks you can see the difference in the two cockerals, one had much more developed wattles/comb even though they were the same age. they developed at slightly different rates.