Lessons learned in my first actual relationship (That failed.)

Controlling is very, very bad. Gad you learned this early!

 

Glad to see you back, Ec. Missed you. And glad to hear that guy got kicked to the curb! Sounds like he was a real piece of work. I can't imagine any guy trying to make you his lapdog and getting away with it for long.

 

Yes, you need to tell guys explicitly to do something differently or stop doing it so we know what to ignore or do the opposite of. That's what my wife would tell you. Seriously, we PREFER direct. If you're wrong we'll either tell you or blow it off and hope it goes away. The latter is our version of diplomacy, the former is "if I piss her off enough, maybe we'll have some makeup lovin later."

That's the ageless comm. gab between the sexes. Can't find it now, but there's a funny picture out there of 2 machines. One is labled "man" and has an on/off switch and a fuel cap. The other is labeled "woman" and is a total mess of dials, levers, indicators, guages, bells and whistles. So true.

 

yep men and women....all different LOL!

 

don't worry, Ec, that perfect someone is out there. And I'll bet he looks just like Kotetsu Karabugi!
My first bf wasn't a controller... just a flirt, and he couldn't stand up for himself to save his life. Oh, and he had the emotional involvement of a mushroom. I made myself believe he was perfect, until it finally got through my head that he wasn't. But at this age, that's life, learning and losing and falling and getting up until you find that someone.