Looking for some advice! :)

[duckncover]

Hey guys! I know everyone on here is pretty cool so I have come seeking some dating advice. A while ago I got assigned from my college(I am an Early Childhood Education major) to work at a preschool for a few weeks. I was nervous but once I got there I fit right in. The teacher there that is the closest to my age is extremely attractive. She is an outdoorsy, adventurous, ambitious girl with a beautiful smile and we share a love for animals, Disney movies, and camping among many other things. Her coworker started trying to set us up after noticing we have a lot in common. At first it wasn't really working but one of my last days there she gave me her number. We have been talking and we have really been hitting it off. I am 22 and I have never had much luck with girls but I really like her. She is 26 so she is a little older than me plus she is done with college. We have talked about a lot of different things and have been talking about doing a bunch of things together like going fishing and her teaching me how to canoe. If I don't message her first she usually messages me. And when I ask her to message me later she always does. Her friend told me that she was smiling the other day while she was texting me. I am supposed to go with her on Monday to help her clean out her desk at the preschool and we might order food with her coworkers. We usually talk from the morning until she goes to bed, which is awesome. She is a very busy person and has a lot of activities she does as a coach and stuff but I am hoping to get her to go with me on an actual first date. She even told me that July will be a much less busy month for her and apologized twice when I asked her to go for lunch with me and she ended up being busy. I was thinking of asking her to go see a movie we both are wanting to see. I really want this to be more than a friendship so I would love some advice from you guys on what I can do to charm her into liking me back. I think I am doing a good job but I always love to get advice. I am just worried that she may be talking to me but isn't really interested because I know some people do that.

 

[Toddrick]

She has given you every sign possible that she is interested. She could be the one! ask her to dinner at your favorite place.

 

[duckncover]

You really think so? I am going to try to get her to go to that movie with me. She has food issues so she doesn't really like to eat at restaurants. I am terrible at reading people so that's why I am asking.

 

[Toddrick]

You really think so? I am going to try to get her to go to that movie with me. She has food issues so she doesn't really like to eat at restaurants. I am terrible at reading people so that's why I am asking.

If everything you said above is true (and not because you're terrible at reading people heh) then she is as into you as much as you are into her. It really sounds like she has got a thing for you, otherwise she would not be so receptive/responsive. In other words, she is throwing off all "YES" vibes and that is the surest sign of all. I bet if you tell a stupid joke she will laugh even if no one else in the room does, just because she wouldn't leave you hangin'.

 

[Michael OShay]

I really want this to be more than a friendship so I would love some advice from you guys on what I can do to charm her into liking me back.

X2 on Toddrick's advice; and don't try to "charm her" into liking you back. Be a gentleman, but don't pretend to be something you're not. Just enjoy your time with her and be yourself. If she doesn't like you for who you are, she is not the right woman for you and the relationship will crash at some point down the line when she learns you are not who she thought you were. Honesty is always the best policy in building a relationship. Good luck. )

 

[Ravynscroft]

You really think so? I am going to try to get her to go to that movie with me. She has food issues so she doesn't really like to eat at restaurants. I am terrible at reading people so that's why I am asking.

x3 on what they said, especially Michael. I saw this and it reminds me so much on how me and my fiance started out. And thought I'd give you a few words from a female perspective.

First and foremost, be open and honest. Any relationship built on anything less usually doesn't work out, or at least not well. Definitely don't 'charm' her, be yourself no matter what.
You say you aren't good at reading people, but sounds like you are very good at paying attention to details and remembering them. You know she has food issues and took that into consideration when thinking of your date. Let me tell you, things like that matter a lot more than trying to impress a girl with extravagant gifts, dinners, etc. As she sounds very down to earth, the little things will mean more to her I'm sure.
Yes, she is into you. Texting and talking each morning and evening even though she is busy? Smiling when she sees a text from you? Big signs that there is something more than friends from her towards you.
And lastly, big leap here, but ask her. Make it simple but not pushy. Ask her if she sees you as a friend or if there is a possibility of more than friends. If it's there, then it's there. But if it's not, it would be better to find out sooner rather than later.
But to me, it sure sounds like a good start to a healthy relationship. Good luck and hope it all works out well for both of you!

 

[duckncover]

I am honest with her. I wouldn't lie about my interests. We have a lot in common and a lot of what we dont is still interesting to me. I guess "charm" wasn't the best word to use. I'm not going to ask her just yet. Maybe as a follow up after the first date I will find out. But considering that her friend set us up with intentions of us dating and she is still talking to me even though i no longer work with her i would like to think she might at least see potential in me. Or she probably wouldn't lead me on.

 

[Ravynscroft]

That sounds very promising! And did not mean to sound like I thought you weren't being honest or yourself, just stressing how truly important those qualities are.
As it was HER friend trying to get you two together, that sounds like she might have confided an interest at some point, maybe?
And yes, I do believe you are exactly right in that she isn't 'stringing you along'.
Good luck!

 

[Toddrick]

Consider this - if her friends are tried to fix you up at all then you should be flattered. If you think she is out of your league or anything like that, think again, because her friends must feel you are in the same league! Also, her friends must think you have good character to try and fix you up with her.

So, even though I don't know you, to me these are also very positive signs that you are on very solid ground here. And to be honest...it sounds a like like how I met my wife.

 

[Chuck Graham]

RELAX. Take it easy. At your age things can either work out or not and in the grand scheme of things down the road not mean a thing. Enjoy life now and don't sweat the small stuff.