"Louisiana "La-yers" Peeps"

You go girl. And I applaud you for being able to doing everything that he could. :bow Not tooo many of us around anymore. I"m proud that you are able to do all of those things and you don't rely on a "man".. :thumbsup You would think that a man would be proud AND honored to know and to say that his wife/partner can do all of those things but some aren't. I don't get it. :idunno

I work with some women who can't do DIDDLY SQUAT! I am so embarrassed for them. I don't understand how that works. :hu And the sad thing about it, they don't want to learn how to do anything. All of the females in our office (except 2 - me and another girl) can't change a tire to save their souls. They have to call their husbands or someone else to come and change the tire. Heck, they can't even check the tire pressure in their tires with a gauge. Now, I know that is not "common" for most women to be able to do but c'mon ladies. Years ago, a co-worker's husband died and she said the strangest thing. She said that she has to learn how to do everything because he did everything for her. I was like, "HUH. What does that mean?" For some odd reason, I thought all women knew how to do "minor" things to their vehicles and other minor repairs around the house. I guess I was raised differently. My father taught me how to change a tire and check oil levels, water levels, put in antifreeze change the oil in a car at the age of 10 years old. The older I got, he showed me how to change brake pads and few other things. After my father retired from the military, he was a plumber/electrician by trade, so he taught me how to change faucets, a toilet, etc. I guess that's why I loved being with my father all of the time because he was always doing things that I considered "fun". While my sisters were inside doing their hair, nails and toes and make up and shopping, I was outside learning a trade. I thought that was normal but I was shocked to find out that is wasn't.

Men say they love an independent woman but when it comes right down to it, they are jealous and feel insecure.

Now don't get me wrong, it's very nice to have a husband to do all of those "manly" things but again, c'mon ladies, don't depend on him to do it all. That Is why I always encourage people to learn more and do more. When I see someone doing something that I can't do, I want to learn how to do it, so I ask them to teach me or I teach myself. But that's just me.

Learning = Empowering yourself.

Hats off to you for being a single mom and making it. Keep up the good work.

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Thanks, Kuntrygirl. My dad taught me a lot about cars, too. And, yes, I can change tires. When I get work done on my car I want to know what they are doing bec I understand it. If a plumber comes to my house to do something, it will only be once bec I will watch and ask questions and do it myself next time. Same for electricians. I can do a lot of things. I agree, you'd think a man would appreciate that in a woman, I could have a lot of fun with a man that wanted to do that stuff together (NOT just hand him the tools), but every one I ever dated or married just didn't appreciate it at all, no matter how much lip service that gave to it. I just quit looking a long time ago.
 
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The place behind us is for sale.  The owners (who don't live there) dumped 6 big black garbage bags of trash there.  It had food, etc.  Animals have torn the bags open and empty food containers, paperwork, etc. is blowing all over the place.  I called their real estate agent and she claimed not to have seen anything the last time she was out there...SHE IS AN IDIOT!!!  She then told me that her clients wouldn't have dumped trash out there and someone else must have.  SOOOOO...I marched over there and started looking at all the crap blowing around.  The owners NAME was on all sorts of paperwork and trash.  Hmmmmm...I called the agent back and told her...She said she'd get it taken care of.  I took a couple of pictures and sent them to her cell phone.  AGGGGHHHHH!!!!!!

Go get her crakednuts . Do they think someone wants to by their trash? How big is the land asking for angel and foreverlearnig . Try to find some good neighbors for you. Pam
 
Same here - as an only child, my parents were sure to teach me to do everything & be totally independent. By the time I met Jim, I was looking for a house trailer to put on my land and I fully intended to live in it w/my dogs and cats and I didn't care if I EVER got married. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad I did! - 35 years for us this year -- but I've always kept my independence, as has he. We respect each other for it, and we are truly best friends.
 
Haha. That was one of the big reasons for my divorce. He said I could do anything he could do. I was single for a long time and poor and a single mom and I had to learn how to do things bec I sure couldn't hire anyone. I never could understand what his problem was. Ok, you cut the grass, you dismantle the deck, you build the fence. He was upset bec I was going to do those things, but he was also upset to do it himself knowing I could. So, was I suppose to just forget I can do things. Besides, I like to do those things. I am who I am, and if I can beat you at something, I have a good time, and if you beat me at something I still have just as good of a time. "Why did you marry me and say you love how independent I am only to hate that about me after we're married?" Just don't get it.

Why not do things together? There are plenty of men that would love to sit back and let the wife do everything . I couldn't handel that. Before my car wreck we did everything together. Sometimes he did things he is better at. An visa versa.
 
You go girl. And I applaud you for being able to doing everything that he could. :bow Not tooo many of us around anymore. I"m proud that you are able to do all of those things and you don't rely on a "man".. :thumbsup You would think that a man would be proud AND honored to know and to say that his wife/partner can do all of those things but some aren't. I don't get it. :idunno

I work with some women who can't do DIDDLY SQUAT! I am so embarrassed for them. I don't understand how that works. :hu And the sad thing about it, they don't want to learn how to do anything. All of the females in our office (except 2 - me and another girl) can't change a tire to save their souls. They have to call their husbands or someone else to come and change the tire. Heck, they can't even check the tire pressure in their tires with a gauge. Now, I know that is not "common" for most women to be able to do but c'mon ladies. Years ago, a co-worker's husband died and she said the strangest thing. She said that she has to learn how to do everything because he did everything for her. I was like, "HUH. What does that mean?" For some odd reason, I thought all women knew how to do "minor" things to their vehicles and other minor repairs around the house. I guess I was raised differently. My father taught me how to change a tire and check oil levels, water levels, put in antifreeze change the oil in a car at the age of 10 years old. The older I got, he showed me how to change brake pads and few other things. After my father retired from the military, he was a plumber/electrician by trade, so he taught me how to change faucets, a toilet, etc. I guess that's why I loved being with my father all of the time because he was always doing things that I considered "fun". While my sisters were inside doing their hair, nails and toes and make up and shopping, I was outside learning a trade. I thought that was normal but I was shocked to find out that is wasn't.

Men say they love an independent woman but when it comes right down to it, they are jealous and feel insecure.

Now don't get me wrong, it's very nice to have a husband to do all of those "manly" things but again, c'mon ladies, don't depend on him to do it all. That Is why I always encourage people to learn more and do more. When I see someone doing something that I can't do, I want to learn how to do it, so I ask them to teach me or I teach myself. But that's just me.

Learning = Empowering yourself.

Hats off to you for being a single mom and making it. Keep up the good work.

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I learned the car stuff from my Dad too. And. Out of need our first cars were klunkers. I even learned to start my car by passing the starter when. I was unable to afford a new one. My dad took me duck hunting and taught me how to use a gun. Etc.
 
Haha. That was one of the big reasons for my divorce. He said I could do anything he could do. I was single for a long time and poor and a single mom and I had to learn how to do things bec I sure couldn't hire anyone. I never could understand what his problem was. Ok, you cut the grass, you dismantle the deck, you build the fence. He was upset bec I was going to do those things, but he was also upset to do it himself knowing I could. So, was I suppose to just forget I can do things. Besides, I like to do those things. I am who I am, and if I can beat you at something, I have a good time, and if you beat me at something I still have just as good of a time. "Why did you marry me and say you love how independent I am only to hate that about me after we're married?" Just don't get it.
The problem is that many men find too many females that can't or won't do anything for themselves including work that they ^think* they want an independent woman. They were assured of their manliness by these females because they were relied on for everything. Then they meet an independent women and feel refreshed at first because they don't have to do anything (nice to do but don't have to). However their entire manhood is wrapped up in the fact that they are needed by the female. This then causes problems because they were in love with the idea of an independent women but weren't in love with her. They don't realize until it is too late that for that female love was enough to keep them around and by time they realize it it is too late and they have already screwed everything up badly. This also makes the female more independent because of the lessons she learned from him. The men that can handle a truly independent female are few and far between but they are out there.
 
Haha. That was one of the big reasons for my divorce. He said I could do anything he could do. I was single for a long time and poor and a single mom and I had to learn how to do things bec I sure couldn't hire anyone. I never could understand what his problem was. Ok, you cut the grass, you dismantle the deck, you build the fence. He was upset bec I was going to do those things, but he was also upset to do it himself knowing I could. So, was I suppose to just forget I can do things. Besides, I like to do those things. I am who I am, and if I can beat you at something, I have a good time, and if you beat me at something I still have just as good of a time. "Why did you marry me and say you love how independent I am only to hate that about me after we're married?" Just don't get it.

The problem is that many men find too many females that can't or won't do anything for themselves including work that they ^think* they want an independent woman. They were assured of their manliness by these females because they were relied on for everything. Then they meet an independent women and feel refreshed at first because they don't have to do anything (nice to do but don't have to). However their entire manhood is wrapped up in the fact that they are needed by the female. This then causes problems because they were in love with the idea of an independent women but weren't in love with her. They don't realize until it is too late that for that female love was enough to keep them around and by time they realize it it is too late and they have already screwed everything up badly. This also makes the female more independent because of the lessons she learned from him. The men that can handle a truly independent female are few and far between but they are out there.


BRAVO !!!!!!!!!!! :bow

You nailed it !!! :thumbsup
 

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