I have the best stepdad. Really, as far as a step parent goes, I couldnt have hand-picked a better one. He's not my dad for sure and never will be, but we have a good relationship and he thinks of my kids as his own grandkids. Or so I thought... Mom begged me to live here in ice-box freaking MN so she oculd see the babies more often. I caved. I hate it here, summers are great but they dont make up for the winters at all. I'm miserable and I miss my daddy and Wyoming. But she said she'd "die" without me close by. SO here I sit. Stepdad is a control freak, as am I. We butt heads, a lot, because we both like to be right (but he's frequently wrong IMHO). DS#1 is 5.5 now, low maint and just a joy to be around (when lil brother aint there) and SD decided that DS should go to my step brother's football games this year since DS is so easy to care for now and WORSHIPS SB. Mom decides to have DS to her house Friday and take him to SB's 1st game of the season, then have a sleepover and take him to a friends' wedding tomorrow. She tells SD and he flips out saying he never gets to do anything alone with her anymore and guilt trips her into cancelling on me. Fine, whatever I like having my kids around anyways and I didnt ASK her to babysit it was her idea. But she DEFENDS his behavior saying that he just needs to be alone with her "and we DID watch the boys one day last week" ...are you KIDDING ME? 99% of the time they are ALONE together, I try to keep away because SD is ALWAYS like this, all pouty and jealous (how can a 60 yo man be jealous of a 5 yr old and not feel bad about it!?) I dont see how much more ALONE time he wants, good god my in-laws watch the boys more and they arent even related to them! SO my mom asks me what I think. BIG mistake, this has been building up for 3 years and I told her exactly how I feel about it. Now shes not emailing me back... I dont ask her or expect her to be my mommy, I am 25 and have my own life, but if she ASKS me to be here and then lets him keep us apart why the heck did I come here!? Argh if I werent working on my christian values there are several words I'd like to say right now... but I feel bad, I feel like I hurt my mom even tho I reiterated that I dont want to hurt her but I think she needs to hear this and I told her that I do love SD but he's gotta lighten up cause I have had it up to HERE. I feel like my big mouth dug a big hole...but I also feel like I had a right to tell her. Did I overstep my bounds or was there something that needed to be said here?