Men and Their Pride

[Beekissed]

He could have an inguinal hernia, which is a common sports injury.

Depending on the severity, he may not be able to walk properly, he may be wearing a girdle, he may have to stay off his feet for awhile. If he has had repair surgery, he may have to remain quiet until this heals.

Not that he couldn't sign a card, but he may be embarassed about his condition, who knows?

 

[Cetawin]

Sorry but I would have a chat with him. I was a sensei in a dojo for years and I would not tolerate that type of behavior if one is my senpai had a student take ill and the senpai did not acknowledge the student ...I mean signing a card? Come on now really... He is not in a coma or suffering a serious head injury or loss of limb is he? Then there is no excuse for that behavior.

Chat with the instructor and explain that while he was injured, he still has an obligation to students to heal quickly, keep in touch and acknowledge such serious issues and it will not kill his dumb a&& to sign a flipping card. He needs to be a responsible role model, supportive and there for his students...period point the end

 

[justbugged]

Let it go. He politely declined, and that is his right. Others will notice and come to their own conclusions.

 

[wombat]

I'd say either let it go, or if you know him well, call him up, and simply ask how he's doing. Mention not having seen him in a while, and play it by ear as to whether to ask if there's anything you could do to help while he's recovering.

Don't mention the card. Nobody owes it to others to have guests over for any reason when they're recovering and don't feel up to it.

 

[Chicksdigit]

You should respect his privacy whether or not he has been injured.
He has politely but absolutely, without any doubt, let everyone know he doesn't want visitors. Let him be.

 

[Eggs4Sale]

When I had postpartum depression, I would have refused to sign a get-well card for my own mother. It's not an issue of logic or laziness or being polite. It just is, and that's what it is. If he has depression, don't knock him. Be grateful he's still alive.

As a matter of fact, he seems to have been a good guy all these years until now. You don't know his reasons, so it would be compassionate of you to assume he has a good reason, or is simply incapable at this time. The vast majority of people do not do 'odd' things because they are mean, evil jerks. There is usually an "If I had only known" moment at the end of this tunnel.

I'm sorry your friend has cancer. If the instructor were well, he would be sorry, too.

 

[Black Feather]

Yeah, you guys are more than likely right and it really is not my business. The situation just caught me so off guard and it seemed so out of character that I wasn't sure how to take it.

My instructor actually blew the ACL in his knee. I hope he'll be able to get well and not need surgery but who knows at this point....it's just a waiting game.

 

[seismic wonder2]

I wouldn't worry about it, at least he answered you.

When you loose ALL contact, that's when to get worried.

It's a narcissistic pattern of behavior. He put a lot of time and energy into looking like a "trainer". Sometimes that thought takes over and becomes the primary driving force in everything he does.
An injury shows a sign of weakness that a "trainer" shouldn't have. Newbies get injured, NOT the trainer.....After an injury, he can't work out and even a weight gain of 2 pounds will throw the narcissist into a world of hurt thinking they are a "tub of goo".

Just let him do his thing, when looks better than he did when he got injured he'll be back.

 

[cmjust0]

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I wish the creepy janitor guy at my elementary school had felt that way.

 

[Beekissed]

Don't you just love it when you have been in serious, mind-blowing painful labor for X amount of hours and you look like someone dragged you through a knot hole and people crowd into your hospital room and start taking pictures?