My 4 year old said a 4 letter word... RANT

[redhen]

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[kit1470]

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welll said - I agree!

 

[Jamsoundsgood]

I just told my kids that certain words were "adult only" words and they could make the decision to use them or not when they were an adult. My FIL swears quite a bit, but is one of the greatest men I know, and has many qualities I want my children to emulate. And many things about him are much worse than the swearing.

I'm not going to deny my children the things they could learn from this man just because they could learn a few words I would rather they didn't say. Of course I also use the line my seventh grade English teacher always said "Swearing is for people with no imagination and limited vocabulary." She had a way of making us feel very stupid for, um, asserting our independence.

 

[Serrin]

Sparkles, do you by any chance have, or have access to a video camera? Here's just a suggestion if you happen to have a video camera or can borrow one from somebody for about a week or two:

If you see your husband swearing in front of the kids, video tape it! Do it every chance you get. Don't worry about him asking you what you're doing. Just smile, and continue taping. When you have several good minutes of him using foul language in front of the children, play it back for him.

Sometimes, we can't see ourselves from the viewpoint of another....but we sure can when it's played back for us on a television screen.

Maybe his desire to correct this problem doesn't come from a lack of respect for you and your wishes to have swear free kids, but from a lack of ability to recognize just how bad it sounds and looks. He just has to see this for himself. A playback of him using foul language may be just what you need to really bring the point home for him.

Who knows...it might be worth the effort...Good luck. I hope you find an answer to this...but hounding him doesn't sound like it's working to me. Time to find another avenue of pursuit. If at first you don't succeed, quit doing it the same old way and try something else!

 

[deb1]

My hubby curses sometimes, although he has gotten much better lately.


I tell my children that using curse words will cause people to percieve them as less intelligent than they really are.

Of course, you can be very intelligent and use curse words but people will still percieve you as not being very smart.

Notice in movies and on TV the very intelligent characters don't often curse. That is because film makers understand that if they want us to accept that a character has intelligence they have to cut down on the cursing.

No, that isn't fair. You can certainly have a high IQ and curse. But that is life and it isn't always fair. If you use a lot of foul words some people will judge you as being less intelligent.

Here is a funny story: My family was taking a trip when my husband shouted out, "Sh!t!" From the back seat my then two year old started," Daddy, Sh!t is a bad word. You shouldn't say Sh!t
It is wrong to say Sh!T. Please don't say Sh!t....." and on and on he went saying the curse word the entire time.

 

[sparkles2307]

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I might do that! Our digital camera can be used as a camcorder too.

 

[sparkles2307]

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[Mrs. Turbo]

I have a 3 year old and a 4 year old....we watch our mouth around them, but they hear things at the store, other people, and on TV. All you can do is teach them not to say the bad words.....don't think you can shield them from it.

 

[Ol'FashionHen]

Awe man .. should I post, don't post, do post ... hmmm.

Don't bash me, right or wrong, does not matter, just different strokes for different folks.

But my Dh and I do not cuss, nor do we see it as a priviledge.
My Dh has actually told one of his customers to call someone else because every other word out of his mouth was son of *#^*#, when he was referring to his landlord. We just don't see any since in cursing, especially to or around a woman or child, but then again we are old fashioned. I suppose we like to stick with some of the old ways. Now it's not like we don't have folks around us that cuss, my DH's uncle cusses, but does not use some of the most vulgar words, mostly the simple main four lettered ones. Most of his mom's family cuss, but his dad's do not. My parents always cussed, and even as a kid I did not like cuss words

. Most of both sides of my family cusses. I don't judge them, like I said we just prefer not to. Now if a family member is going on and on and using vulger words over and over it does make me mad, and I will say "well good day, watch your mouth, you don't have to speak like that, not everyone wants to hear that". Now I only say it to family, cause well they are family and we have to love each other regardless

, I will always love them, dispite their potty mouth

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, Now don't get on me, I still love y'all too.

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[WriterofWords]

I just had to add again, I just came out of a meeting with a parent and their 6th grader because of his trashy mouth. His dad also thinks cussing is a privilege, an adult thing, something "grown-ups" do. He wasn't too happy when I gave him my opinion on what his language indicated about him. IN my own opinion it's not a privilege, it's sure not a sign of being a grown up, it means you just don't care who knows you have a "crappy" vocabulary and know no other way to express yourself without offending everyone in a 25ft. radius! And if you insist on teaching your children these words by using them in front of them all the time you have absolutely no right to complain about them wanting to be just like you, but NOT in my classroom they won't and neither will you.