My dad has cute anemia/He passed away

[Moochie]

He told us today if he's lucky he'll live for another year. We (mom and I) just took away wine from him because we think he drinks too much, he used to drink a whole bottle a day. We took it away on Sunday because he fell to the ground and he's old (72 years old) so we didn't want him getting hurt. He had a fit about it and kept saying "just leave me alone, give me my wine back, leave me alone" and when my mom talked to him about seeing a counselor about the drinking he said he's not going or else he will kill himself. Today he didn't eat anything and has been resting most of the day. He tried getting up from his bed downstairs and he fell and hit the back of his head on a little table next to his bed. My mom tried to get me to call 9-1-1 but my dad yelled "NO" and he said he would be fine, that he's just dizzy. When he got back on the bed he told us about his acute anemia, he didn't want us to worry about his medical condition because of my school problems and my mom's cancer treatments.
He's sleeping right now and he said if he can't get up tomorrow then we can call 9-1-1. Right now is probably one of the scariest times in my life.
I'm haven't even started my senior year in high school yet. If my dad passes away money will go way down, how will my mom and I live? We'll have to get rid of 85% of our birds, maybe more than that. Maybe we'll only be able to keep one dog. My mom says if worse comes to worse we'll move to Korea where our family is (her side of the family).

I want advice on what we can do for him, can we let him drink wine, what to do if he passes away...

 

[1Teacherchick]

Wow, that is huge! I assume from your info that you are in California. There is a crisis line in CA that can help you find experts to help you. Here's a copy of their info.

"The California Youth Crisis Line (CYCL) is a statewide, toll free, 24-hour, confidential Hotline available to teens and young adults ages 12-24 and/or any adults supporting youth.
If you or someone you know is in crisis, don’t hesitate to call 1-800-843-5200.
We can help."

I hope you will call someone who can put you in touch with knowledgeable people who can help. This is too heavy a problem for you to solve on your own. If you are hesitant to call, please have your mother call. Your family should not face all these troubles alone.

 

[debilorrah]

Well, coming from a 51 year old woman, I say let him have his wine and give him supplements. Prenatal vitamins are HIGH in iron (which is what anemia is, a shortage of iron). Many elderly (OH GAWD am I almost there???) have a deficiency.

I know many are going to disagree with me, and I am ok with that. At this point in my life, I am gonna eat steak (great source of protein AND iron), butter (cuts back on cellulite) and full flavor dressings.

Check out your labels. You may be surprised at what is in "healthy" foods.

 

[Chick N Haus]

If he is an alcoholic, suddenly removing alcohol may not be the best idea. However, alcoholism may lead to liver damage and may be the cause of anemia. He needs to be under the care of a doctor to sort out these problems. Calling 911 and having him taken in for evaluation may not be a bad idea, if he is not sober enough to make good decisions for himself.

 

[Moochie]

Thank you for your advice. We called 9-1-1 about an hour ago. He said he couldn't take the pain anymore, he was feeling stomach pain and pain under his heart.
I don't normally resort to religion (I am agnostic) but if anyone can pray for John E Watola please do.

 

[Moochie]

My mom just called me from the hospital, my dad had a heart attack in the ambulance, he didn't make it.
What do I do.

 

[dewey]

I'm so sorry, and will be praying for your dad and family.

 

[Moochie]

He also had angina. Wow, I have no idea how to feel about this. It's just my mom and I now, animals will have to be downsized greatly, we have to do the financial stuff my dad did (we don't know how to do that stuff either), I guess we're gonna keep the house, 2 people in a 5 bedroom house though, money might be tight, we got alot of money from his veteran stuff and social security, and mom is gonna have to start her radiation treatments this month without my dad. How am I gonna do this....

 

[dewey]

Moochie, I am so very sorry about the loss of your dad. I did not see your post before mine posted. My heart goes out to you.

This may be an overwhelming time for you and your family and I hope a trusted other can be with you and your mom. Also, hospital social services, hospital Chaplains, the Salvation Army and maybe the Red Cross can be of great help when we've lost a loved one and need assistance navigating during the difficult coming weeks or months.

I am so very sorry.

 

[EweSheep]

I am so sorry!

Dewey has some excellent advices! Do you have family members you can count on?