My FIL is Giving Away 4 of my Guinea Hens (UPDATE pg 2)

[lorieMN]

my first thought..stand up for yourself girl..if you let them start running your life it will never stop.

 

[swampducks]

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LOL I already am.

I appreciate all the responses, the thing is I'm not all that upset about it (and I get upset fairly easily) and I can't figure out why. (perhaps I becoming ONE with the Universe?) I do intend on meeting this Mr X myself (supposedly he has rabbits and pheasants and all sorts of critters, I want to be sure he's not one of those hoarder types who mistreat animals.)

DH is between a rock and a hard place when it comes to his dad, all his brothers are, too (boy I could tell you guys some stories!). The man can act so nicely and then turn on you the next minute. There has been talk about his being a manic depressive but he refuses to do anything about it. His wife, though is a sweetie so DH tries to keep the peace for her sake. She's from that old school "put up with everything because you married him" thing.

Plus my puddle ducks are at FIL's farm because I have this mink problem that still isn't resolved so we don't want to have to bring them back yet. Until this "new deal" I actually had no problem with the idea of giving my FIL some guineas as a birthday present, (what do you give a man who has tried every animal in farming?). He actually feels he is helping everyone and that we owe him. Sometimes it's so laughable I could cry.

But as I'm here, my birds are here, and FIL almost never visits though he lives only 17.5 miles away (he's been here ONCE in the past 2 years) everyone is safe till I make a decision. So don't worry, it ain't gonna happen unless I want it to, even if his dad does make DH nervous.

 

[conny63malies]

Id would have some of their things on ebay and craigslist.

 

[swampducks]

I spoke with DH tonight trying to get more info about Mr X. His dad has bought rabbits from him in the past. DH knows where he lives and has agreed to take me to see the guy's farm and will back me up if I refuse this guinea exchange. I explained to him about some of the horror stories I've heard on BYC and did not want to become part of one.

DH tried to "explain" to me there is a difference between a "pet" operation and a "farm" operation and I explained back that there is also a difference between a well run farm and badly run farm. So I get the final word on all this.

And if it's a well run farm I will NOT be bringing back any rabbits. No, I WILL NOT!!

 

[cat]

oh you just know you are spending the weekend building a rabbit hutch!

I have to tell you if anyone decided to barter my feather babies without my express consent theywould be sleeping in the shed.

I have found the best way to stay on your FIL's good side in my humble opinion is to remind him that you and your husband are one day going to be picking his retirement home, so it pays for him to make nice!

I hear rabbits and guineas live together no problem, have a good weekend!

 

[sunnychooks]

Mmmm... Backyardbunnies.com...
Has a nice ring to it!

 

[swampducks]

You guys are so baaaaad!!!!

 

[Barnyard]

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You took the words right out of my mouth!!

 

[MagsC]

I would be furious if an in law made that kind of decision for me, but thats just me.
I know some people really believe they are helping someone out when they do this, but I still consider it interfering.

 

[swampducks]

DH and I went to the farm of Mr X yesterday. He and his wife turned out to be very nice people, and have quite a set up. A big old horse barn, each barn wired off for each kind of bird and then a long 40 foot or so run outside under the trees. It's clean, I couldn't smell anything bad, there's plenty of artificial lights, perches, water dishes, stuff to play on, etc. I probably can't even remember all the kinds of birds they have, but I'll try.

Pigeons, every kind imaginable (by me, anyway)

chickens of all sorts, including free ranging silkies (man, those guys are weird looking in person)

white peacocks, and regular

really fancy pheasants, white and black ones and orange-red-yellow ones

quail, quail, and more quail

Bobwhites, (are those quail?)

white turkeys

and now 3 guineas, one of his pearl males and one female purple and female pearl from me. He gave us his other 3 males in exchange which we took to my FIL's farm.

Mr X also had a ton of rabbits, they sell them for pets and meat, lopears, Flemish giants, all sorts. And very nice looking, too. And 2 quarter horses and a foal. Mr X is also a farrier.

So I guess this has worked out okay. Plus I have 4 less guineas to feed (FIL is getting the other 2 females, only pearls though.)