MY grades and parents

[Sonoran Silkies]

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An E?

I'm mean like that.

Some schools use an E instead of an F.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Good grades do not just happen (at least not most of the time for most people). They take planning and organized work. To often kids do not learn HOW to make good grades; HOW to study; HOW to calculate their grade on their own. Most people can make a good grade if they know the above. I did not say all people or all subjects.

Talk to your teacher and find out where you veered off course.

 

[joebryant]

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Bosses do give "grades." It is called a job evaluation, and results in raises and layoffs and firings. As an adult, you're expected to tell your spouse or other interested parties as you see fit. However, for a minor I would be absolutely livid if my child's grades were not sent to me. For that matter, if I am paying tuition and expenses for college, I would be/am livid that the grades are not provided directly.

Yep, and almost invariably those "bosses" evaluations are just as subjective and meaningless as a teacher's opinion. Let's see you give truly meaningful "grades/evaluations" to 200 children every six weeks.

 

[fowltemptress]

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I'm mean like that.

Some schools use an E instead of an F.

Really? Is it to tone down the harshness of an F? In the district where my mother works, teachers are no longer allowed to grade papers with the color red, since it's too severe on the children, whatever that means. They have to use purple, blue, or green. It's pretty absurd.

 

[cassie]

I wish parents would lay off their kids about report cards. When I would bring my report card home it was like WWWIII. I didn't get all A's you see. I was made to feel like a failure. It finally got so bad I would just not bring the report card home at all and would forge my mother's signature. A few years ago I came across some of those old report cards. To my surprise they weren't all that bad. Mostly B's, a few A's, and a couple C's. Nothing to deserve all that hell my parents put me through. I don't think any kid ever improved his/her grades as a result of being shamed and yelled at. Sure didn't help my grades. If anything it made them worse. Because I knew no matter how well I did or how hard I tried it would never be good enough. It's been years and years, but I still remember.

 

[wegotchickens]

My parents were really rough on me about my grades and they were almost all B's & A's. Really really stressful. I've tried to be more understanding about my own kids, and would be happy with a mix of B's and A's. But lately I'm getting mostly C's & D's and even an F. My daughter is going through a hard time, so I understand a little. But I'm angry at the teachers; they should let me know before my daughter gets to an 'F', especially since they know exactly how rough her life has been lately! I never got a straight answer on why I wasn't contacted.

But the worst part is learning that my daughter lied to me rather than admit she wasn't doing well at all. That really upset me, and not the grades themselves.

I agree with the pereson who said to tell your parents in advance, and let them know:
A) Why you think the grade was so low,
B) Why you didn't know soon enough to make a difference, and
C) What you plan to do to improve it.
D) How AWESOME the rest of your grades are and have been in the past.

If I were your mom, these things would calm ME down! And I would

you!

 

[joebryant]

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Bosses do give "grades." It is called a job evaluation, and results in raises and layoffs and firings. As an adult, you're expected to tell your spouse or other interested parties as you see fit. However, for a minor I would be absolutely livid if my child's grades were not sent to me. For that matter, if I am paying tuition and expenses for college, I would be/am livid that the grades are not provided directly.

Yep, and almost invariably those "bosses" evaluations are just as subjective and meaningless as a teacher's opinion. Let's see you give truly meaningful "grades/evaluations" to 200 children every six weeks.

BTW, you want your child's grades to go up, send a nice note with some homeade fudge to the teacher.

 

[3goodeggs]

HA! He's right! ...and when It is on the line between an 'A' and a 'B' and you are .5 points away from that 'A', I bet they'd loan you that .5 from next quarters' work... for fudge! And I would wink here but Bob Redford up there doesn't like smilies.

 

[amyparrotflock]

I'm a full IB graduate. I feel your pain.... I really really do.

Are your IB classes on a 4.5 or 5.0 grade scale? Mine were. When you figure it out on a regular scale you have a higher grade, and it is more difficult to obtain an A in those classes.... a lot more difficult.

I really really am thankful for IB, it was a pain in the rear when I was in the classes and I had allnighters, or time that was spent studying. It paid off when I hit college, I was able to skip some first year classes and it gave me a major advantage I was able to double major (Biology and chemistry) and was still able to graduate in four years. I hope it's still around when I have kids.

Edit to add: if you have a bio professor like mine you may want to hang onto your bio binder, and your chem binder..... it paid off for me when I was in college.

 

[PlymouthRocker]

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I'm not sure how I weigh in on this . . . by the time my daughter is 18+, I would expect that she be responsible enough to take care of this. I mean, she'd have all those years with me beside her, teaching her how to be responsible. If she didn't get it by 18, I would be deeply concerned to send her to college at that time. I would encourage her to take a few years off and get some life experience before wasting money. On the hand, I understand if I'm paying for her school that I'd want her to do her best. But if her best is a C, then that's what it is.

Sorry to sidetrack.