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Start saving your allowances for all the therapy you will need?
My folks were just like this and I always wondered why folks do this to their kids? High expectations is one thing, I expect good things from my kids. But unrealistic expectations and a militant attitude about grades is not helping anyone.
Do your best and realize that they will love you even if you can't perform to their high standards....I hope they show it or you will spend your life feeling like your best just isn't good enough to earn their approval.
Not every kid is capable of straight As, but many are. If they are capable of making an A, I expect it. If I see them working hard and they get a B or even a C, that is fine, but if I don't believe they have tried their best, a B is not good enough.
I strongly believe that if you expect excellence, you get excellance, or something very close. If you expect mediocrity, that is what you get.
There are many facits of life; parental disapproval of the efforts or behavior in one area should not carry over to other areas (personality, compassion, kindness, hobbies, friendships, chores, etc.). However, parents are interested in raising a child to be a productive member of society. To that end, education is very important; it is a child's "job."
I do realize that there are parents who carry grade emphasis to an extreme, but I do not think that is the norm.