My leukemia's back.

[drumstick diva]

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[sourland]

@getaclue I would be seriously tempted to indicate that I had legal representation on the back burner. Frankly I doubt that I would trust the teachers even if they indicated acquiescence. It sounds as if they need a new career.

 

[getaclue]

sour, I've already mentioned to Dd #1 to have his psychologist made very aware that one, or both of his teachers may be upset, or resentful, and we don't want any resentment, retaliation, hostility, or negativity directed towards my grandson. I suspect that due to what these teachers have done, and their lack of cooperation, the school psychologist will be monitoring for this as well.

 

[oldrooster]

Gac, it's too bad they have a union, because otherwise those fools (I seriously cannot call them teachers, unless it's teachers on what NOT to do) otherwise there would likely be impressions on the concrete out in front of the school that would nicely match their glutious Maximus if I were the principle...

 

[getaclue]

The suggestion to mention that a lawyer may be on the back burner, I want to wait a bit. It's better to enlist the enthusiastic cooperation of those that matter, and get this resolved. They need a chance to be able to try doing that. Threats at this point, could be counterproductive. Another thing, I am not a person to make threats, especially idle threats. If things don't go right, I'll quietly get a lawyer, and proceed with legal action. No threats, no forewarning. I've already contacted a law firm, in case we need their services in the near future. No need to give advanced notice to the school. The times in my life that a threat was in order, and could possibly help solve something, I've always strengthened my position first, then been prepared to execute the threat, in case someone thought I was bluffing, and called my bluff.

 

[getaclue]

oldrooster, It's not that we have not thought along those same lines. I think most people, especially family, and friends get angry, and want to rush in to defend/protect a young person being done dirty. Thoughts of bouncing the dirty-doer on their behind is normal. If it were just me involved, I'd already be out on bail, awaiting my hearing. I'm not the only one involved, so in this case, it's best to stay-the-course.

 

[wyoDreamer]

It would be hard not to unleash the wrath of khan on the teachers who are at the root of this trouble, but with the little one being involved a calmer, less screaming approach is necessary. I hope the teachers can be grown-ups and adult enough to not take their pound of flesh out of your grandson.

 

[bruceha2000]

Frankly I doubt that I would trust the teachers even if they indicated acquiescence.

Agreed since to this point they have been the exact opposite of cooperative. Don't know that they won't continue with their resentment at being hauled in.

I hope the teachers can be grown-ups and adult enough to not take their pound of flesh out of your grandson.

Me too but I'm not holding my breath. @getaclue's grandson will have to understand that he NEEDS to report any infractions, no matter how small, to DD, the school counselor and or psychologist ASAP. The teachers have to know that the choke chain around their necks is on a 1" leash.

 

[getaclue]

We had a meeting at grandson's school today. It went fantastic. The school counselor was there, but she had called in her boss. Her boss was up to speed on everything, and is connected with the school board. The school psychologist was there. The one teacher that was giving the hardest time about everything was there. The boss counselor, took the lead on most of the meeting. She opened by asking my daughter what was going on. Dd summarized what was going on.

The teacher giving the hard time, began by saying my grandson was missing too much school, and that was just a small part of why he was behind. Boss counselor was having none of it. She looked up his absences. He's going to his child psychologist twice a month, being signed out shortly before the appointment, then being returned, and signed back in shortly after the appointment. Doctor's excuses have been provided each time, making them excused absences. Boss counselor let the teacher know that it was her job to ensure he was brought up to speed on the missed class, even if she had to give my grandson some 1 on 1 time to catch him up. The homework could be sent home, or excused, but was not to count against him in any way.

The bad teacher commented that she had sent the homework home, but it had not been completed, and returned. My daughter told her that the homework was NOT sent home. Even the other teachers said that any homework they sent home was always done, and returned. Then the bad teacher said that maybe she forgot to send it. Bad teacher then contradicted herself saying she didn't want to send it home, because he put in a full day at school, and it was not good for him to spend all his time at home, studying, and doing school work. She then said she had helped him with his missed homework at school, so he was about caught up. The contradictions did not escape the rest of those present.

Boss counselor then began thanking my daughter for ensuring my grandson got counseling. Far too many children that have suffered abuse, or trauma, don't get the counseling they need. From now on, it was to be understood that my daughter's efforts in doing what was in the best interest of my grandson, were to be fully supported by all school staff.

I then commented on the issue of my grandson's difficulty in advocating for himself. Boy, that opened a can of worms. The bad teacher acknowledged that he would not advocate for himself, but she lumped that in with his difficulty with being able to focus for extended lengths of time, and his struggling to learn. His test scores proved it. That's when the school psychologist jumped in. He made it clear that lumping it all together was totally wrong in this case. He does not have an actual learning disability. I pointed out 3 dates on his test scores, where he went from a failing grade, took the same test again a bit later, on the same day, and aced the tests. No one goes from being an idiot to acing tests like that, in a couple hours, if they have a learning disability. He did not advocate for himself, but didn't fully understand what a section of the test was requiring of him, so he failed. Once it was explained to him what was expected in that section, he aced it. The psychologist looked at his test scores, and agreed with me.

Boss counselor informed the teacher that copies of school work, tests, and homework that he was struggling with, were to be sent home, along with a lot more communication about it, in his agenda. That way, it could be taken in to his therapist, and it could be addressed. The bad teacher protested it, saying she couldn't/wouldn't comply. Boss counselor let the teacher know that she had no say so in it, or choice in the matter. Boss counselor was making it part of his learning plan, and the teacher had to comply.

One by one, all the issues were addressed.

Release forms were signed so the school psychologist can discuss things with grandson's child psychologist. They didn't realize that my daughter had already signed paperwork at the child psychologist's office, so things could be discussed when the school called her. Anyway, everyone has permission now. The school psychologist wants to know what my grandson's triggers are, what coping skills she's taught him, so they can be incorporated into his learning plan. While his child psychologist taught him coping skills for living life, he wants to hone in on those coping skills for school. The learning plan, and things they want to implement, will follow him all the way through high school.

We were reassured multiple times that the head staff will do all that's in their power to serve my grandson's best interests, and get him back on target. They made us aware, that while most of the teachers in that school are very dedicated, they're not all perfect, and do make a mistake or two. The know too that they do have a couple teachers that are not quite as dedicated. In the event that my grandson got a not-so-dedicated teacher, he would be transferred into the class of a better teacher, and the lack of dedication would not go unnoticed.

 

[Alaskan]

We had a meeting at grandson's school today. It went fantastic. The school counselor was there, but she had called in her boss. Her boss was up to speed on everything, and is connected with the school board. The school psychologist was there. The one teacher that was giving the hardest time about everything was there. The boss counselor, took the lead on most of the meeting. She opened by asking my daughter what was going on. Dd summarized what was going on.

The teacher giving the hard time, began by saying my grandson was missing too much school, and that was just a small part of why he was behind. Boss counselor was having none of it. She looked up his absences. He's going to his child psychologist twice a month, being signed out shortly before the appointment, then being returned, and signed back in shortly after the appointment. Doctor's excuses have been provided each time, making them excused absences. Boss counselor let the teacher know that it was her job to ensure he was brought up to speed on the missed class, even if she had to give my grandson some 1 on 1 time to catch him up. The homework could be sent home, or excused, but was not to count against him in any way.

The bad teacher commented that she had sent the homework home, but it had not been completed, and returned. My daughter told her that the homework was NOT sent home. Even the other teachers said that any homework they sent home was always done, and returned. Then the bad teacher said that maybe she forgot to send it. Bad teacher then contradicted herself saying she didn't want to send it home, because he put in a full day at school, and it was not good for him to spend all his time at home, studying, and doing school work. She then said she had helped him with his missed homework at school, so he was about caught up. The contradictions did not escape the rest of those present.

Boss counselor then began thanking my daughter for ensuring my grandson got counseling. Far too many children that have suffered abuse, or trauma, don't get the counseling they need. From now on, it was to be understood that my daughter's efforts in doing what was in the best interest of my grandson, were to be fully supported by all school staff.

I then commented on the issue of my grandson's difficulty in advocating for himself. Boy, that opened a can of worms. The bad teacher acknowledged that he would not advocate for himself, but she lumped that in with his difficulty with being able to focus for extended lengths of time, and his struggling to learn. His test scores proved it. That's when the school psychologist jumped in. He made it clear that lumping it all together was totally wrong in this case. He does not have an actual learning disability. I pointed out 3 dates on his test scores, where he went from a failing grade, took the same test again a bit later, on the same day, and aced the tests. No one goes from being an idiot to acing tests like that, in a couple hours, if they have a learning disability. He did not advocate for himself, but didn't fully understand what a section of the test was requiring of him, so he failed. Once it was explained to him what was expected in that section, he aced it. The psychologist looked at his test scores, and agreed with me.

Boss counselor informed the teacher that copies of school work, tests, and homework that he was struggling with, were to be sent home, along with a lot more communication about it, in his agenda. That way, it could be taken in to his therapist, and it could be addressed. The bad teacher protested it, saying she couldn't/wouldn't comply. Boss counselor let the teacher know that she had no say so in it, or choice in the matter. Boss counselor was making it part of his learning plan, and the teacher had to comply.

One by one, all the issues were addressed.

Release forms were signed so the school psychologist can discuss things with grandson's child psychologist. They didn't realize that my daughter had already signed paperwork at the child psychologist's office, so things could be discussed when the school called her. Anyway, everyone has permission now. The school psychologist wants to know what my grandson's triggers are, what coping skills she's taught him, so they can be incorporated into his learning plan. While his child psychologist taught him coping skills for living life, he wants to hone in on those coping skills for school. The learning plan, and things they want to implement, will follow him all the way through high school.

We were reassured multiple times that the head staff will do all that's in their power to serve my grandson's best interests, and get him back on target. They made us aware, that while most of the teachers in that school are very dedicated, they're not all perfect, and do make a mistake or two. The know too that they do have a couple teachers that are not quite as dedicated. In the event that my grandson got a not-so-dedicated teacher, he would be transferred into the class of a better teacher, and the lack of dedication would not go unnoticed.

Excellent update!!!!