I don't want to live anymore..... seems pointless im not suicidal so don't get your panties in a bunch..... my kids are all upsetting me..... they act like it's not as painful for me.
My leukemia's back.
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I truly think that they are being nasty because they are so sad and upset ... and all of that pain is just bursting out towards you..
It sucks...
I care about you and your well being.
Hang in there.
My panties are slightly in a bunch Phil, but only because care & worry about you.
Your adult kids are acting like little kids & that’s gotta be hard when you need them to be there for you.
When My FIL passed away DH & his siblings regressed into little kids & acted like they were the only ones grieving. They shut everyone out even my MIL. They wouldn’t acknowledge that anyone besides themselves was in mourning. MIL was about ready for a nervous breakdown & I had to call DH & tell them them they were acting like spoilt little brats & to quit shutting her out. They honestly had no idea they were doing it until I called them out.
As much as you need them to be adult about this, they will always have the little kid mentality when something bad has happened to a parent. I hope they will grow up a bit & be more sensitive to your loss.
Your adult kids are acting like little kids & that’s gotta be hard when you need them to be there for you.
When My FIL passed away DH & his siblings regressed into little kids & acted like they were the only ones grieving. They shut everyone out even my MIL. They wouldn’t acknowledge that anyone besides themselves was in mourning. MIL was about ready for a nervous breakdown & I had to call DH & tell them them they were acting like spoilt little brats & to quit shutting her out. They honestly had no idea they were doing it until I called them out.
As much as you need them to be adult about this, they will always have the little kid mentality when something bad has happened to a parent. I hope they will grow up a bit & be more sensitive to your loss.
You hit it right on the head, Room.My panties are slightly in a bunch Phil, but only because care & worry about you.
Your adult kids are acting like little kids & that’s gotta be hard when you need them to be there for you.
When My FIL passed away DH & his siblings regressed into little kids & acted like they were the only ones grieving. They shut everyone out even my MIL. They wouldn’t acknowledge that anyone besides themselves was in mourning. MIL was about ready for a nervous breakdown & I had to call DH & tell them them they were acting like spoilt little brats & to quit shutting her out. They honestly had no idea they were doing it until I called them out.
As much as you need them to be adult about this, they will always have the little kid mentality when something bad has happened to a parent. I hope they will grow up a bit & be more sensitive to your loss.
Phil, my tighty whities were starting to get a little tight, but - you have your grandkids, your friends, and you have YOU. It's gonna hurt like hell, but you have a lot to live for. You have faced adversity and conquered it before.
About your kids - folks handle grief in different ways. They probably feel the same unrealistic responsibility for her loss that you do and are deflecting their grief. My middle sister was always problematic (that's an understatement). On the day that we buried our mother I divorced myself from her and have only seen her twice since then. I'm not suggesting you do something that drastic as I sense that you have a basically good relationship with your kids. Remember that sometimes 'Friends are the family we make for ourselves.'
Your feelings are quite understandable. Life after the kids move out is what the parents make of it. Half of that is now missing for you and there isn't an obvious path forward right now. I don't guess anyone who hasn't lost a spouse can truly understand. It is bad enough when the loss is due to an illness where you have some time to accept the future change. Far worse when it is sudden.
I'm glad to know that you ARE planning to move forward, it has to be very hard. Hopefully your kids can get out of their grief enough to recognize that you chose your wife as a life partner, been through thick and thin together. That is a bond and loss they do not have with either parent.
@bruceha2000 well and eloquently said.
bruceha2000 you put that better than I ever could.
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