My leukemia's back.

[sourland]

I don't know about others but the theme of this thread is a frank discussion of life altering health problems, one must hope for the best and plan for the worst. if you have the major problems planned for then there is less stress for everyone involved when and if they happen....

Well said. My daughter's MIL is dealing with a rapidly progressing dementia. Her finances and affairs are a shambles. My SIL has gotten power of attorney, but the whole process has put a horrible stress on him. Much like OR, the Princess and I can see the 'end' looming. All that we own has been put into an estate (revocable) so things can be changed if desired. Our daughter has POA over our finances, and our son has POA over medical situations. We both have living wills. We haven't made funeral arrangements , but that is the next step. It's all part of caring for/about those left behind to resolve things.

 

[oldrooster]

Sour some people have trusts like yourself and forget about getting a will also just in case something falls thru the cracks heard from an acquaintance in my area there was a big fight over a simple thing that slipped thru.......

 

[Alaskan]

I don't know about others but the theme of this thread is a frank discussion of life altering health problems, one must hope for the best and plan for the worst. if you have the major problems planned for then there is less stress for everyone involved when and if they happen....

I am like that. .. I like having everything in order.

But then I don't mind talking about morbid stuff.

 

[Cynthia12]

Had a really nice time yesterday with a few of our kids and a couple of grandkids. One daughter came back after visiting another sis. She talked with us about some things. Sounds like a trust is the way to go all right. A will can be taken to court by family, disputed. I just pray that they will all be.. good kids! Having said that, I will be talking with each one, asking them if there is anything in particular that they grew up with, that we may still have, they want. Make a list. Going to rethink giving the the house to our youngest. Oh yeah. This...will come together. Glad we are starting some things. Will be having a lawer over probably within a months time. Well, like that cute little critter is saying above, hope everyone is having a great day. Count your blessings. They are there in big numbers!

 

[Bunnylady]

a big fight over a simple thing that slipped thru.......

Sometimes, you can have everything spelled out, and you still get a fight.

A former BIL married and divorced twice, then married for the 3rd time. His third wife pretty quickly got tired of him and threw him out. They wound up not only living in separate houses, but separate states, for longer than they lived together, but when he died last year, they were still legally married. His children from the first marriage (only children he had, though I believe 3rd wife has some) were named as the beneficiaries of a life insurance policy at the time of his death. Third wife has been trying to get her hands on the money, but so far, the courts have ruled against her. From what I understand, she hasn't a legal leg to stand on, but since when does that stop some people from trying?

 

[drumstick diva]

speaking of gross things - were we? My friend on the senior bus is always talking about being cremated so there is no funeral or cemetary bills. She said she doesn't care if they just dump her ashes in the trash.

Personally I don't believe in cremation - in my faith you are supposed to return with all you were born with. At any rate it makes me very upset to hear her talk about it and she has been doing it for the 10.5 years I know her. Just too gruesome for me. It's her choice if she really wants that - I just want her to stop talking about it.

 

[sourland]

@oldrooster , we updated our will at the same time.

 

[bobbi-j]

one must hope for the best and plan for the worst. if you have the major problems planned for then there is less stress for everyone involved when and if they happen....

It's all part of caring for/about those left behind to resolve things.

My aunt did that for me. I was her closest living relative (we are in MN, the rest of her family lives in OH), so was named both medical and legal POA. She had everything spelled out, arrangements made (donated her body to UofM, they cremated her when they were done with her, and then burial with my uncle at Ft. Snelling National Cemetery). In an emotionally difficult time, she made it very easy for me. Well, as "easy" as something like that could be. I can't tell you how much I appreciated having pretty much just to make a few phone calls, see my lawyer about dividing the money she had left behind according to her wishes, and selling her house. (I don't remember what it was, but something was forgotten there that did require some legal work) I am fortunate, too, that her family in OH didn't feel the need to contest anything.

View attachment 1249204Had a really nice time yesterday with a few of our kids and a couple of grandkids. One daughter came back after visiting another sis. She talked with us about some things. Sounds like a trust is the way to go all right. A will can be taken to court by family, disputed. I just pray that they will all be.. good kids! Having said that, I will be talking with each one, asking them if there is anything in particular that they grew up with, that we may still have, they want. Make a list. Going to rethink giving the the house to our youngest. Oh yeah. This...will come together. Glad we are starting some things. Will be having a lawer over probably within a months time. Well, like that cute little critter is saying above, hope everyone is having a great day. Count your blessings. They are there in big numbers!

I am glad you are making the most of your time together, and making preparations. What a devastating diagnosis.

speaking of gross things - were we? My friend on the senior bus is always talking about being cremated so there is no funeral or cemetary bills. She said she doesn't care if they just dump her ashes in the trash.

Personally I don't believe in cremation - in my faith you are supposed to return with all you were born with. At any rate it makes me very upset to hear her talk about it and she has been doing it for the 10.5 years I know her. Just too gruesome for me. It's her choice if she really wants that - I just want her to stop talking about it.

I'm not sure how I feel about cremation. DH says he wants to be cremated, but there's something about totally erasing a human being... I don't really care what they do with me. I'm not going to be around to know! I told DH to save the funeral costs, take the skid loader, dig a hole out behind the barn and dump me in. Unfortunately, I think there are laws that wouldn't allow that...

 

[bruceha2000]

When I went through a class on Prius maintenance for work..... It was when they were dealing with the whole runaway Prius crisis...... They told us if you want to stop a Prius that's running away.... Throw the smart key out the window..... Some where between 100' and three miles it will stop.....

You were fed a line of bull.
First the "runaway Prius":
That was such a farce but Toyota fell on their sword for it. Cut the bottom off the accelerator pedals on all the existing cars as a recall in case the floor mat could get stuck. No properly installed OEM mat comes even close to the pedal including the heavy rubber winter mats. I know of only 2 instances where there were claims of runaway in a Prius. One was someone's housekeeper driving the "someone's" Prius. Didn't know the car, got to the end of the drive hit the gas instead of the brake and shot across the road. Fortunately no one was coming on the road. Like a Prius's accelerator and brake pedals are any different than other car's? Check of the computer showed what happened. The other was a proven case of fraud in California. Guy on the freeway called 911, claimed the car was running out of control. Miles upon miles. Refused to put it in neutral when a CHP pulled up next to him because that would cause him to lose control . Claimed he was hard on the brake pedal the whole time. They found that the wear pattern on the discs and drums showed he was not on the brakes trying to stop the car, probably enough to keep the brake lights on though. The couple had over $200K in debts but claimed they weren't trying to screw Toyota (which they didn't).

BTW, if you try to put a Prius in Park or Reverse when it is moving forward at more than 1 or 2 MPH, it will go into neutral. Since there is nothing mechanical between the shifter and the transmission, if the car is going less than those speeds, it will stop and do the action requested, though there will be a slight lurch, best to be doing 0 MPH first And once you are doing 0 MPH you can put it in Park by shutting the car off, it will automatically be put in Park first.

Another BTW, sadly I am suspicious of the off duty CHP that had the loaner "runaway" from the dealer with improperly installed floor mats that got stuck on the accelerator. I have to believe a cop would be well enough trained to put a car in neutral if it were a runaway. Sounds to me like suicide and manslaughter.

Second tossing the SK out the window will do nothing but keep you from restarting the car after you shut it down. The car will run until you shut it down or run out of gas and electricity. So, if you are driving a Prius and drop someone off, make sure they don't have the only SK in the car

has been put into an estate (irrevocable) so things can be changed if desired.

That would be REvocable

 

[bruceha2000]

I told DH to save the funeral costs, take the skid loader, dig a hole out behind the barn and dump me in. Unfortunately, I think there are laws that wouldn't allow that...

I think that might depend on what state you live in.