My leukemia's back.

[perchie.girl]

Folks my mom passed away this evening unexpectedly. play for me and my family please.

 

[perchie.girl]

My family knows, but when I go, I want a memorial service, and to be cremated, then tossed in our pet cemetery area. It's near the chicken coop, and is a nice spot.

Oooh I like that.... I have a very nice spot located in an amphitheater of sorts of boulders... I need to write it out in a will....

deb

 

[Alaskan]

I almost asked if she wanted to join her but I held my tongue.

So tempting... but good you didn't say it.

Probably best but I can see that would have been pretty difficult. You are through with these people now my friend Door closed, rest of your life is ahead.

Yep. X2.

That's why I think it made me so mad about the griping about the services, they could not find the time to see her when she was alive why make a fuss about it when she's dead? If they truly loved her why did they not make it an effort to see her when she was alive? or pick up a phone and be the one to call???

I agree. Cut them out, work on forgiving them enough so that bitterness doesn't hurt YOU, and live a good life without them.

 

[bobbi-j]

I agree. Cut them out, work on forgiving them enough so that bitterness doesn't hurt YOU, and live a good life without them.

Wise words, Al.

 

[sourland]

Good morning, Team Rachel.

I'm tempted not to go to the service, it's this weekend. I was there for mom when she needed me, she is no longer here. the shell remains, but the person is gone.

Tough choice, and it's your call. Me, I'd go for 'ME' not for anyone else. Bottom line is the only hold these folks (I won't call them relatives) had on you was through your Mom. She is gone. Don't give them the power anymore. Simply be done with them and ignore/shun them.

 

[bruceha2000]

You don't understand out of 7 siblings,

It was only a suggestion IF there were family members you would like to see. I'm sorry that you have no family of your mother's that fits that description.

 

[oldrooster]

Good mourning friends, I venture that it is because my mom's parents and siblings didn't like the fact my mom married, and that she never married the person that they wanted her to. I believe they were hoping for a divorce but I was born nine months after the wedding. so there for that's why I am "scum" because I am the spawn of a marriage they did not want to happen, my mom married a guy from a "big city" wikipedia says this The population was 80,405 at the 2010 census and It is the seventh-largest city in Indiana and people from "big cities" are rich and also evil. My mom broke up with her former boyfriend 5 or 6 months before dating my dad and the guy kept coming around even after my mom married, to her parents and siblings homes because he and her family "knew" the marriage was going to end in divorce. Funny 26 years later the marriage did end, it ended with dad in a casket. they hated me so much they refused to let me be pal bearer for him because they were "more related" to him by marriage. Until then I did not know a sibling was more related to a woman than her child and a man's son was less related to him than his BIL's.

 

[getaclue]

oldrooster, I know this has re-opened an old wound for you, because you've never really healed over what they did in regards to your dad's funeral. No, it's not fair how they've treated you throughout the years, or how they behaved at his funeral, but that's on them. It's not on you. You tried, and they made it impossible, so take comfort in the fact that you tried your best to do the right thing. While they may have prevented you from being a pall bearer, they did not rob you from trying to do the right thing. Continue in life, trying to do what's right.

They are the ones with a burden of disappointment, and let it turn to bitterness. No matter how disappointed they were with your mother's choice for a husband, that did not give them the right to take it out on you, even though they did. They've had plenty of time to get over their disappointment. They chose not to. It was their choice, not yours. No matter how they say, and show it, their bitterness is not your burden to carry. Refuse to accept it. You've tried your best, and that's all you can do. You can't change them, but you can refuse to buy into their lies, and let them change you. Continue doing the best you can, and doing what you know in your heart is the right thing to do. Let them retreat into their miserable, bitter lives, and suffer it without you.

 

[Alaskan]

Good mourning friends, I venture that it is because my mom's parents and siblings didn't like the fact my mom married, and that she never married the person that they wanted her to. I believe they were hoping for a divorce but I was born nine months after the wedding. so there for that's why I am "scum" because I am the spawn of a marriage they did not want to happen, my mom married a guy from a "big city" wikipedia says this The population was 80,405 at the 2010 census and It is the seventh-largest city in Indiana and people from "big cities" are rich and also evil. My mom broke up with her former boyfriend 5 or 6 months before dating my dad and the guy kept coming around even after my mom married, to her parents and siblings homes because he and her family "knew" the marriage was going to end in divorce. Funny 26 years later the marriage did end, it ended with dad in a casket. they hated me so much they refused to let me be pal bearer for him because they were "more related" to him by marriage. Until then I did not know a sibling was more related to a woman than her child and a man's son was less related to him than his BIL's.

 

[N F C]

oldrooster, I know this has re-opened an old wound for you, because you've never really healed over what they did in regards to your dad's funeral. No, it's not fair how they've treated you throughout the years, or how they behaved at his funeral, but that's on them. It's not on you. You tried, and they made it impossible, so take comfort in the fact that you tried your best to do the right thing. While they may have prevented you from being a pall bearer, they did not rob you from trying to do the right thing. Continue in life, trying to do what's right.

They are the ones with a burden of disappointment, and let it turn to bitterness. No matter how disappointed they were with your mother's choice for a husband, that did not give them the right to take it out on you, even though they did. They've had plenty of time to get over their disappointment. They chose not to. It was their choice, not yours. No matter how they say, and show it, their bitterness is not your burden to carry. Refuse to accept it. You've tried your best, and that's all you can do. You can't change them, but you can refuse to buy into their lies, and let them change you. Continue doing the best you can, and doing what you know in your heart is the right thing to do. Let them retreat into their miserable, bitter lives, and suffer it without you.

Excellent post GAC!