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bruceha2000 said:
True. People who marry early and have kids typically do not fare as well monetarily over the long run. It is hard to work full time and go to college and raise kids at the same time. People who do not have kids typically fare better just because that huge expense isn't there. And it sounds like you rescued the mother he wouldn't have had from a bad environment and who knows where she would have ended up.

Look at your son and his material things. How many of them do they actually use and how often? How much of that (making assumptions here) massive master bedroom do they actually use? The bed when they are asleep and not much else. Would you be happier if you had a much bigger boat to fish from? A house with 4X the space filled with furniture you don't use? Enough clothes that you would not need to wear the same shirt but once every month or so?


I don't see why you should feel any need to go to the service. You already had the small service. As has been said, the service is for the living to interact with each other, share their grief or whatever. You don't want to see those people so don't put yourself through the agony of spending time with them. If there are any family members you would like to see, invite just them over to your house for a small gathering the next day.
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I really didn't mean to rant....
It's taken years for me to come to grips with my son's wealth..... And I mostly have.
It's just such a shock... leaving his house and coming back to my little shack in the woods.
I know exactly why things ended up they way they did.... And who to blame.
Little things like leukemia and my wife's ten year trip to rock bottom didn't help.
But I don't need to be Petty.
You all are great here and I'll never bring my Petty issues here again.... I'm sorry.


Phil
 
oldrooster said:
Good mourning friends, I venture that it is because my mom's parents and siblings didn't like the fact my mom married, and that she never married the person that they wanted her to. I believe they were hoping for a divorce but I was born nine months after the wedding. so there for that's why I am "scum" because I am the spawn of a marriage they did not want to happen, my mom married a guy from a "big city" wikipedia says this The population was 80,405 at the 2010 census and It is the seventh-largest city in Indiana and people from "big cities" are rich and also evil. My mom broke up with her former boyfriend 5 or 6 months before dating my dad and the guy kept coming around even after my mom married, to her parents and siblings homes because he and her family "knew" the marriage was going to end in divorce. Funny 26 years later the marriage did end, it ended with dad in a casket. they hated me so much they refused to let me be pal bearer for him because they were "more related" to him by marriage. Until then I did not know a sibling was more related to a woman than her child and a man's son was less related to him than his BIL's.
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Sorry....:hugs
 
oldrooster said:
That's why I think it made me so mad about the griping about the services, they could not find the time to see her when she was alive why make a fuss about it when she's dead? If they truly loved her why did they not make it an effort to see her when she was alive? or pick up a phone and be the one to call???
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Hmmm..may actually have some guilt feelings about not being more of a...family. Not sure how they can think .. being there...now, makes up for it. I've heard of this happening before. Sad oldr..sad.
 
Phill don't be silly, sometimes we have to get the petty out in order to get better. I needed to vent, and the rest of the folks here understood the whys and I understand you needing an escape valve, fortunately we know each other but yet there is a little bit of an anonymous type setting here so we can be more open and honest about stuff. Heaven forbid we get our underthings in a bunch with someone here we can leave before exploding and ignore BYC a few days and not suffer the problems with a face to face relationship and ignoring someone a few days esp. if it's a neighbor or coworker we have to see regularly. We all know we are not perfect. nut sometimes it's easier here because most of us won't shove each others noses in it, in part because most of these are CHOSEN relationships, not forced.
 

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