My leukemia's back.

[sourland]

@getaclue hopefully that teacher realizes that he/she is now being scrutinized.

 

[bruceha2000]

We had a meeting at grandson's school today. It went fantastic.

I am with happiness. I hope they do transfer him and to the best teacher in the school for his grade. I seriously doubt the "bad teacher" will ever let this go and will hold animus toward your grandson regardless of the smile on her face and compliance at the most minimal level she can get away with.

@getaclue hopefully that teacher realizes that he/she is now being scrutinized.

Have to be blind, deaf and exceptionally stupid not to.

 

[ronott1]

We had a meeting at grandson's school today. It went fantastic. The school counselor was there, but she had called in her boss. Her boss was up to speed on everything, and is connected with the school board. The school psychologist was there. The one teacher that was giving the hardest time about everything was there. The boss counselor, took the lead on most of the meeting. She opened by asking my daughter what was going on. Dd summarized what was going on.

The teacher giving the hard time, began by saying my grandson was missing too much school, and that was just a small part of why he was behind. Boss counselor was having none of it. She looked up his absences. He's going to his child psychologist twice a month, being signed out shortly before the appointment, then being returned, and signed back in shortly after the appointment. Doctor's excuses have been provided each time, making them excused absences. Boss counselor let the teacher know that it was her job to ensure he was brought up to speed on the missed class, even if she had to give my grandson some 1 on 1 time to catch him up. The homework could be sent home, or excused, but was not to count against him in any way.

The bad teacher commented that she had sent the homework home, but it had not been completed, and returned. My daughter told her that the homework was NOT sent home. Even the other teachers said that any homework they sent home was always done, and returned. Then the bad teacher said that maybe she forgot to send it. Bad teacher then contradicted herself saying she didn't want to send it home, because he put in a full day at school, and it was not good for him to spend all his time at home, studying, and doing school work. She then said she had helped him with his missed homework at school, so he was about caught up. The contradictions did not escape the rest of those present.

Boss counselor then began thanking my daughter for ensuring my grandson got counseling. Far too many children that have suffered abuse, or trauma, don't get the counseling they need. From now on, it was to be understood that my daughter's efforts in doing what was in the best interest of my grandson, were to be fully supported by all school staff.

I then commented on the issue of my grandson's difficulty in advocating for himself. Boy, that opened a can of worms. The bad teacher acknowledged that he would not advocate for himself, but she lumped that in with his difficulty with being able to focus for extended lengths of time, and his struggling to learn. His test scores proved it. That's when the school psychologist jumped in. He made it clear that lumping it all together was totally wrong in this case. He does not have an actual learning disability. I pointed out 3 dates on his test scores, where he went from a failing grade, took the same test again a bit later, on the same day, and aced the tests. No one goes from being an idiot to acing tests like that, in a couple hours, if they have a learning disability. He did not advocate for himself, but didn't fully understand what a section of the test was requiring of him, so he failed. Once it was explained to him what was expected in that section, he aced it. The psychologist looked at his test scores, and agreed with me.

Boss counselor informed the teacher that copies of school work, tests, and homework that he was struggling with, were to be sent home, along with a lot more communication about it, in his agenda. That way, it could be taken in to his therapist, and it could be addressed. The bad teacher protested it, saying she couldn't/wouldn't comply. Boss counselor let the teacher know that she had no say so in it, or choice in the matter. Boss counselor was making it part of his learning plan, and the teacher had to comply.

One by one, all the issues were addressed.

Release forms were signed so the school psychologist can discuss things with grandson's child psychologist. They didn't realize that my daughter had already signed paperwork at the child psychologist's office, so things could be discussed when the school called her. Anyway, everyone has permission now. The school psychologist wants to know what my grandson's triggers are, what coping skills she's taught him, so they can be incorporated into his learning plan. While his child psychologist taught him coping skills for living life, he wants to hone in on those coping skills for school. The learning plan, and things they want to implement, will follow him all the way through high school.

We were reassured multiple times that the head staff will do all that's in their power to serve my grandson's best interests, and get him back on target. They made us aware, that while most of the teachers in that school are very dedicated, they're not all perfect, and do make a mistake or two. The know too that they do have a couple teachers that are not quite as dedicated. In the event that my grandson got a not-so-dedicated teacher, he would be transferred into the class of a better teacher, and the lack of dedication would not go unnoticed.

It is amazing that it took this much to get things going in the right direction!

You Grandson will stay with the same teacher?

 

[sourland]

Have to be blind, deaf and exceptionally stupid not to.

Sadly that is a lot of that going round.

 

[getaclue]

Yes, he will be with his same teachers, even the bad one. Yes, the bad one is fully aware that she will be thoroughly monitored, and scrutinized. Grandson's therapist will be monitoring, so if he picks up on resentment, or mild retaliation from the teacher, and feels uncomfortable with her, it will be addressed. We shall see how it goes, and make adjustments accordingly.

Something I mentioned to Dd #1 last night. When he reads, or does homework, he knows the material, but when he's asked questions, he gets a little nervous, and fidgets with his fingers while giving his replies, or paces the floor, when possible. Come to find out, when the therapist helped set up his learning plan in 1st. grade, the plan included a type of fidget spinner thing he was to keep in his pocket. It had a couple different buttons he could push, that were silent, so as not to disturb others, and a place with ridges, another spot with whirls, and a smooth place. In essence, a worry stone.

Growing up, I used to rub my thumb on the side of my index finger, when concentrating, studying, or speaking in front of a group of people. There was a rhythm to my movements. Without realizing it at the time, I would study, memorize, and learn things with a rhythm. When relaying that information, I had a tendency to relay it in the same rhythm that I learned it. Over time, I built up some serious callouses. When the callouses got bad enough, when I'd bend my index finger, the callouses would split, and bleed.

I read a story about President Abraham Lincoln. The story mentioned that President Lincoln used to keep a buckeye in his pocket, and used it as a worry stone, rubbing it in similar manner that I was doing. One of Lincoln's aides always kept a spare buckeye in his pocket, in case Lincoln needed it. I had a friend in Ohio (deceased now), that sent me some buckeyes to try. It worked. No more callouses on my index fingers. I still have a couple left, and will see if he likes using one of them. If so, I'll be scrounging for a few more buckeyes.

 

[ronott1]

Yes, he will be with his same teachers, even the bad one. Yes, the bad one is fully aware that she will be thoroughly monitored, and scrutinized. Grandson's therapist will be monitoring, so if he picks up on resentment, or mild retaliation from the teacher, and feels uncomfortable with her, it will be addressed. We shall see how it goes, and make adjustments accordingly.

Something I mentioned to Dd #1 last night. When he reads, or does homework, he knows the material, but when he's asked questions, he gets a little nervous, and fidgets with his fingers while giving his replies, or paces the floor, when possible. Come to find out, when the therapist helped set up his learning plan in 1st. grade, the plan included a type of fidget spinner thing he was to keep in his pocket. It had a couple different buttons he could push, that were silent, so as not to disturb others, and a place with ridges, another spot with whirls, and a smooth place. In essence, a worry stone.

Growing up, I used to rub my thumb on the side of my index finger, when concentrating, studying, or speaking in front of a group of people. There was a rhythm to my movements. Without realizing it at the time, I would study, memorize, and learn things with a rhythm. When relaying that information, I had a tendency to relay it in the same rhythm that I learned it. Over time, I built up some serious callouses. When the callouses got bad enough, when I'd bend my index finger, the callouses would split, and bleed.

I read a story about President Abraham Lincoln. The story mentioned that President Lincoln used to keep a buckeye in his pocket, and used it as a worry stone, rubbing it in similar manner that I was doing. One of Lincoln's aides always kept a spare buckeye in his pocket, in case Lincoln needed it. I had a friend in Ohio (deceased now), that sent me some buckeyes to try. It worked. No more callouses on my index fingers. I still have a couple left, and will see if he likes using one of them. If so, I'll be scrounging for a few more buckeyes.

I read a post on another thred where you were looking for buckeye seeds

 

[bruceha2000]

I still have a couple left, and will see if he likes using one of them. If so, I'll be scrounging for a few more buckeyes.

I'm glad you picked up/remembered that. Everyone has their own stress coping mechanisms and if he has one he can use he will achieve his actual capabilities.

 

[oldrooster]

I'm happy the little one is finally getting the school staff on his side for what he needs...

 

[getaclue]

Things are now hinging on the neurologist. After the tests, and results are in, a full plan will be implemented.

 

[oldrooster]

hope it's quick