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Hi everyone! As usual I am frequently absent...my OH has been suffering from depression for a long time and I have been concentrating a lot of my time supporting him, he is not out of the woods yet and has some very negative days and wants to run away from everything...I am strong and give him every encouragement to help whenever I can but it does drag me down and is so very hard to see him suffering...he is negative about my animals and is very critical of them..they are my life and give me reason to be happy; he cannot see this so you can imagine we have some heated conversations....ah well, I am confident we will survive this in one way or another but the animals will always remain with me! I hope everyone here is well and I do miss you, I will try and get here far more frequently than I have of late! Much love xxx

Hi Suzie, it's good to hear from you! Sorry things have been rough, hope they are better soon.

 

[ronott1]

Hi everyone! As usual I am frequently absent...my OH has been suffering from depression for a long time and I have been concentrating a lot of my time supporting him, he is not out of the woods yet and has some very negative days and wants to run away from everything...I am strong and give him every encouragement to help whenever I can but it does drag me down and is so very hard to see him suffering...he is negative about my animals and is very critical of them..they are my life and give me reason to be happy; he cannot see this so you can imagine we have some heated conversations....ah well, I am confident we will survive this in one way or another but the animals will always remain with me! I hope everyone here is well and I do miss you, I will try and get here far more frequently than I have of late! Much love xxx

It is hard to deal with depression!

 

[wyoDreamer]

@LittleLakePhil & @Suzie nice to have you drop in and say hi! Take care of yourselves!

My B-I-L just lost his favorite uncle. Unfortunately, B-I-L is an alcoholic and does not deal with "change" well. He has not gotten past his mothers death 12 years ago. Prayers for my sister to have the strength to deal with him. As she says, he acts like he is the one dying and she is just a cold heartless B**** because she is not bawling 27/7 and can go on and enjoy life.

 

[bruceha2000]

my OH has been suffering from depression for a long time

Has he been seen by professionals? It seems there are decent treatments for depression. I'm sure having your support is quite valuable.

 

[Suzie]

Has he been seen by professionals? It seems there are decent treatments for depression. I'm sure having your support is quite valuable.

No, he hasn't although I suggested he see a professional...he refuses to speak to anyone about it except for me...all he wants to do is run away from everything and wants no responsibility for anything..so difficult but we will work through this...thanks for your input, I just wish he would accept outside help!

 

[getaclue]

Does he realize he's having trouble, or does he think everything is ok with himself? Have you talked with your family physician about it? Gotten a recommendation for a good psychiatrist?

 

[getaclue]

I realize it's none of my business, and you are under no obligation to answer.

 

[Suzie]

I realize it's none of my business, and you are under no obligation to answer.

Thank you for your wise words, he does realise he is depressed and acknowledges that this is not normal behaviour. I dare not speak to our physician as he would consider that to be an intrusion, I did suggest he see her but he will have nothing to do with it, he feels he can sort things out with my help...some days he is better than others and I know he has a long way to go before he gets back to his normal self, he has only ever suffered from depression when we were younger and I divorced him due to his having an affair...long story but he told me that he feels like he did at that time in his life...he always wants to be in control of everything but I have explained over and over that circumstances dictate that we have no control over some events that present themselves...we have to face adversity at times but he seems not able to deal with this aspect...it is very difficult for me and for him...all I can do is try and support him but his head flits from one thing to another...I never know what is happening with him from one day to another...one step at a time is all I can say to him...

 

[getaclue]

About all you can do is reassure him that you can not help him in any way, since you are not a professional, and that's what he needs. As to him helping himself, he can with professional help. If he could do it without professional help, it would already be done.

 

[LittleLakePhil]

Depression sucks.
I don't really have any sound advise Suzie