It's not abusing him in any way, it is defending yourself.
I know the feeling, I have a goose who is nasty, a few weeks back he got loose and attacked me, I had to grab him by his bill, and almost lay my whole body on top of him, thankfully my sister came down and helped me throw him back over his fence. He has attacked me twice.
I wonder if it has something to do with him recognizing your not part of his flock, he sees you as your bf flock and is warning you to stay back as he and your bf have no problems and he's not looking to challenge your bf? My oldest cockerel is only 11 weeks old and he won't let me get close enough to catch him but my husband comes out and he just stops and lets dh grab him so I can look him over. With the 5 week old chicks, 2 of the cockerels have started pecking my hands when I go to put them out in the run but never do it to my dh. He is naturally a very dominant person and friends often recruit him in training their pets from dogs to reptiles, he used to work with animals before I met him so he knows a whole lot more about behavior and how to correct them. I asked not long ago what do we do if one of roo's attacks me and he thinks if he were there to pin it and assert dominance it could send the message that I'm "his hen" so to speak and he is head of the flock, without any experience in chickens specifically this is just an educated guess. It has worked with other animals so we'll just have to wait and see if the issue ever comes up. We've got 9 cockerels so I expect there to be some problems along the way, we plan to keep one and if I can't rehome the others, they'll be dinner.
I wonder if it has something to do with him recognizing your not part of his flock, he sees you as your bf flock and is warning you to stay back as he and your bf have no problems and he's not looking to challenge your bf? My oldest cockerel is only 11 weeks old and he won't let me get close enough to catch him but my husband comes out and he just stops and lets dh grab him so I can look him over. With the 5 week old chicks, 2 of the cockerels have started pecking my hands when I go to put them out in the run but never do it to my dh. He is naturally a very dominant person and friends often recruit him in training their pets from dogs to reptiles, he used to work with animals before I met him so he knows a whole lot more about behavior and how to correct them. I asked not long ago what do we do if one of roo's attacks me and he thinks if he were there to pin it and assert dominance it could send the message that I'm "his hen" so to speak and he is head of the flock, without any experience in chickens specifically this is just an educated guess. It has worked with other animals so we'll just have to wait and see if the issue ever comes up. We've got 9 cockerels so I expect there to be some problems along the way, we plan to keep one and if I can't rehome the others, they'll be dinner.
It's my dad that goes back there. I'm the only one who feeds, cleans, and gives them treats. I think what happened, when the little Seramas came, I figured that I would put them in the coop that locks which is inside a closed in run. My chickens dont use it and the seramas are so small, that they would have plenty of room until I built their pen. Welp, Haihai my roo heard Cluck Norris the serama roo crow and he came at me viciously. He has flogged me as kinda a see how far he can get, but I always picked him up, carried him around, put his head to the ground and we wouldn't have an issue. I waiting until he was roosted and reached in there to grab him, he started pecking the bejeezus outta me. I had to put on gloves and get a sheet to trap him. When I bring their fresh veggies in the morning, he waits to see if I turn around and he can sneak attack. He has only tried to challenge me face to face twice since the big incident. I walk back there with my mud boots and a rake. I need to let him come at me when I've got Jean's and and long sleeve shirt, gloves, and catch his ass right then and there and try the hobble thing.