My son invited a house guest

[annaraven]

I got home from lunch with DH today to an unexpected house guest. She was in an abusive situation and DS invited her here to "stay until she gets on her feet". She's 18 and done some junior college but other than that, no job experience and not really any "skills". I mean, she can type... I'm going to take her over to the local clinic tomorrow to get a checkup and make sure she's healthy. The two of them helped clean out the guest room so she can stay there. We'll see how serious she is about finding work. I know there are some help wanted signs around for basic cashiering and stuff that won't need much skill so she should be able to find *something*. As long as she helps around the house, I'm thinking of having her give me "rent" that I'll put aside for her to make the deposit for a rental place. If she doesn't help and doesn't work, she's outta here.

 

[Carols Clucks]

Hope it goes well

(I have a sons GF that had a similar situation......it will be a year in May...)

 

[Nava]

I'm going to take her over to the local clinic tomorrow to get a checkup and make sure she's healthy.

don't forget to quarantine for 3 weeks, she might look healthy but she could be a carrier

 

[redhen]

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don't forget to quarantine for 3 weeks, she might look healthy but she could be a carrier

Muhahahhaha!

 

[TrystInn]

Trust me on this - house rules. In writing. Soonest.

 

[txhomegrown]

If you need to re-home her, let me know how much shipping will be.

 

[justbugged]

I hope that your new house guest will become useful. I know that I don't want to deal with a young adult that doesn't know how to help out around the home. It's a great idea to have her pay rent for a down payment on her own place.

 

[dawg53]

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don't forget to quarantine for 3 weeks, she might look healthy but she could be a carrier

 

[booker81]

I hope your house guest works out as well!


I had a pretty "interesting" childhood that somewhat left me with a lot of responsibility and no parenting since I was 14. I leaned HEAVILY on a few adults for that parenting structure - and well into my 20's. I didn't need a place to live, but I needed someone to talk to and guide me, someone to call on when I was confused, lost, upset, or just any of the things people normally call their parents for. One of them passed away, and one couple still are very close friends that I can depend on like parents. That couple also "adopted" a 16 y/o from an abusive situation - he pretty much started staying at their house instead of his, they discussed it with his parents (who didn't care), and the school (who was supportive), and the kid graduated with honors, went to college, and is doing very well. They set down house rules, made him work on the farm, do chores, and treated and loved him like their other kids. Their daughter didn't like him much when he was there, but ended up starting to date him down the road, and they are married now

I hope she will learn to understand to trust and will be grateful for your support

 

[zippitydooda]

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