It's 3 am. I can't sleep and battling a panic attack...so I thought I'd vent and possibly get some sage advice. My in-laws hate me.. that's it in a nutshell. I've pretty much known for years but tonight a friend confirmed it. Gee no wonder I get treated like crap at the family outings. I didn't tell my husband about our friend confirming this because frankly he's been working long hours and is exhausted. He's close to his parents and has a hard time dealing with this. His parents think our relationship is on the rocks ( It's not, we've been married 17 years and are still happy despite this.) I don't know how to negotiate this emotional mine field. My in-laws speak badly of me in front of our 7 YO son. According to them I am a liar, cheat, whore, you name it.. Meanwhile, I'm probably the most boring person you'll meet. (knitting chickens, and hanging out with my husband and son are my idea of a good time) Andrew and I have been together since we were kids...he is my one and only. How do I make him see what's going on without destroying our marriage. I just can't deal being treated like crap by relatives and in-laws anymore. DH suggested talking to family friends that know what is going on and are close to his parents but are fair people to see if we can find out what's going on with his parents...I don't know. If we confront his parents head-on they will deny it because they are afraid we will say no to them seeing their only grandchild. What should I do? This is tearing me up inside.