thanks for stopping by my post. I'm a mom of three daughters, 12, 9, and 4. Our 12 year old is actually my step from my husband's previous relationship, but we took custody of her when she was 5. She was living in deplorable conditions in a trailer in the middle of nowhere, not being sent to school, malnourished, etc. Living with us, she's become a responsible, healthy, honor roll student. I've never "replaced" her mother(I prefer the term 'temporary uterine housing unit') but I've tried my darndest to be the best mom figure I can be for her. and as far as anyone's concerned she's my kid. anyway... When we took custody the judge ordered her to arrange visitations and to pay $122/month(really low because she wasn't working thus had no income). She's done neither. Missed Birthdays and Holidays, but would randomly show up once or twice a year. A couple years later she moved to CA(from KS) and would call a couple times a year. She said she was working and that she'd start paying child support, but we've heard that story too many times to believe it. I haven't done the math, but she probably owes us $5K or more by now. For the most part we haven't fixated on the non-payment, we just assume the extra cost and go about our business, but my husband is about to get laid off twice this month and one next month, and this time of year is really hard for us moneywise with one kid's bday next week, one in november, xmas in december, and another bday in january. So my husband and I decided it's time to get the ball rolling on this, keeping in mind that we can't afford a lawyer right now. I don't know where to start, but it seems to me that there must be some sort of advocacy program or agency that can help handle cases like this, because she is essentially breaking both state and federal laws. In california non-payment of over $500 in child support is enough to suspend drivers' license, garnish wages and/or taxes, even jail time. It's tricky though because we live in MO, the orginal court order is through Lyon county, KS, and she's now living in CA. have any of you ever had to seek out a deadbeat parent for child support? or maybe know of somewhere to get started? thanks!