No mother's day celebration here!!!

[gertiie]

At this point I don't really care where she lives. She had a choice to stay there and chose not too.

I agree with you .
Nothing sucks worse than being screwed over by family. She did this to herself and you should not feel responsible for her outcome. She has years of this paatern and
no one will be able to change her, except for herself.
I would check into hiring a lawyer, to get you out of this mess, even if it costs you some now, at least you will be able to get out from it, wash your hands of it and move on.
I have sympathy for you . You tried. Dont let this stress you out and ruin your life, trying to save her. You cannot save them all, even if they are family !
Keep us posted

 

[cassie]

As far as bankruptcy is concerned, you may be able to keep more than you think. There is a book put out by Nolo called the Foreclosure Guide or something similar. You can get it through amazon.com. States vary a lot as to what you can claim as exempt and what you can't. I don't think bankruptcy will help you with the forclosure, but you do need to check with a lawyer about deficiency judgements and tax liability and how to protect yourself. As for your mother, cut your losses. DO NOT BAIL HER OUT!!Some things and some people are just not salvageable. You do need to let your kids know a little of what is going on, though. They deserve to know. Be objective and non judgemental.

 

[whiteflare]

Wow, I'm so sorry for all that's happening in your family.

I agree with the others, if you keep bailing her out, perhaps she'll feel like it's okay for her to behave like this as you'll always be there to save her from any big trouble she gets into.

I hope you work something out.