Your turkeys are like that since they are the meat type not the heritage type like the tom your husband likes.I have a real issue killing anything, even though I know it's the ethical way to do it if my children are to eat meat.
Last time my husband was away back in the spring I ended up with a sick flock and had to cull them. Which I sucked it up and did it, but I had a really hard time with it and the blood and I just can't do it again. I also kept hesitating on cutting them which made it way worse for both the birds and me and my favorite ended up taking a really long time to bleed out (in retrospect I didn't do it right) so it was just a mess.
On a meat thread I saw someone killing them with a b.b. gun. Like held them so they were comfortable (some put a sock over their head) and just shot them point blank with a BB which they said killed them instantly. Not sure if that would work with a turkey? I think all we have is a BB rifle anyway (and I don't even know where I told my husband I don't want guns in the house so he's got them hidden in the garage somewhere.
I don't even know anyone to barter with? Are there people that advertise processing? I'm still pretty new to the whole meat thing.
Also, what's the smallest amount of turkeys you can have? My husband loves his Tom and wants to keep him, but I'm really over the whole turkey thing and don't want to keep more than him. Will he be lonely? Can I put him with the chickens or is that not a good idea? I have a hen I can keep with him. I don't know, turkeys just didn't turn out how I'd hoped and ours eat so much they're a huge money pit and super messy!
My silkies dog pile in the nest box, but they will also roost on the really hot nights. (my roost are about 1 to 2 foot off the ground, they jump higher to get into the nesting box)