Not a good day....Advice Please?

[Black Feather]

Harley's girl :

You have every right to be mad! I totally understand.

I live on my mother and father in laws farm. (No they dont live here) We take care of it. But every single time they come over they bring around 4 dogs with them!!!!!! And they let them chase my birds...and thinks it funny! The one dog killed on of my pheasants. My MIL laughed and said isnt that funny? I thought she was too small to kill anything. (She has yorkies and he hubby has a mini Australian Shepard) So.......yeah.....I feel for you!

Harley's girl, your situation is a lot like mine. I live on my parents farm (no they don't live here either), and care for the family's horses on my own.

My dog is my companion, my doorbell, my security, and most importantly my friend. The only animals she doesn't like are other dogs (she came that way) and rats. As she gets older I've started fretting about 'the day' and I don't want anything to speed 'that day' up any. The thought of something happening to her because of someone elses ignorance just doesn't go over well with me at all.

I feel bad about being so direct with my farrier, but at the same time, asking nicely didn't sink in at all. Or it didn't sink in enough to make an impression that I actually MEANT what I said. I hate wasting breath trying to tell people things and then be ignored.​

 

[NancyDz]

This is completely unacceptable first of all because you asked her not to let the dog out of the truck and second of all.... um not all horses are ok with dogs. She's a farrier and will be around horses that her dog doesnt know, nor do the horses know the dog. It's very irresponsible for her to assume her dog can come with her on her jobs when she is working
around other people's pets and livestock. I would get a different farrier and tell her why. If she's that irresponsible, she is the last person I'd wanting working on my horses. She obviously doesnt have the animal's best interest in mind.


You did the right thing ... although I would have probably asked her to leave as soon as she started arguing with me. There's got to be other , more professional farriers you could work with.


Nancy

 

[Hellvagirl]

I know EXACTLY what your going thru.

I have a 5 1/2 yr old female pitbull.I've had her a little over 4yrs.She doesnt like other dogs either & when she sees one wants to fight.She doesnt go outside unless she is on her metal lead.I dont allow her to run free...I CANT!! BUT on the other hand my neighbors allow their dogs to run free.I have told them please dont let your dogs come in my yard cause my dog WILL eat them!
Theres a leash law in GA & if their dogs come on my property & something happens to them,its not my fault.

Like you I dont want my dog getting hurt.

 

[Harley's girl]

You know what. I would call her. I would say for future reference......do not bring your dog back. It only upsets my dog and I can't have that!



I had to throw a big fit to make my inlaws understand NO DOGS in my house. (I then had to say yes it is your house, but I do not want dogs in here! It upsets my cat something fierce! She freaks out very easily!) It is so annoying.....they don't care they still bring them along.

Good luck to you....and really I would give her a call first thing in the morning.

 

[Black Feather]

I will think of giving her a call. I do believe in second chances and forgiving people (but not forgetting).

First I have to have a chat with my family. If they have gone against my wishes and allowed the farrier to let her dog wander when I'm not home to oversee the visit then I will have to deal with them first. I can't have mixed messages being given out, and I also ahve to keep my chickens in mind as well. I know that 'I' have made it perfectly clear, but my mother tries to make everyone happy and may allow the dog loose when I'm not around for certain visits (which would not surprise me even though she knows better).

I really don't need this headache. I really am starting to believe society has gone down the toilet. When did simple curtesy fall by the wayside?

You guys are right, if I was asked not to bring a dog to someones house it wouldn't even cross my mind to go against the wish.

Add horse person with a dash of dog owner and you have one heck of a mix...wait a minute...that's me too! Ohhh, maybe the chicken owner part cancels out some of that other stuff?

 

[Momma_Cluck]

If you can, get a new farrier. Explain to them your rules and WHY you NEED a new farrier.

Then call the "old" one and explain that
"Due to your inability to act in a professional manner, and refusal to follow our rules when on our property; we have found someone else to do the job, and your services are no longer needed."

I agree with all that has been said-- what if your horse had startled and hurt her, it's self, the Dog or Your Mom????
What if the 2 dogs got to fighting and your dog killed hers, and your dog was badly injured???
Would she be so willing to admit it is "her fault" then?? Probably she'd sue you and try to have your dog put down by the authorities.

If at all possible-- ditch her.

My Dad has a Dog that is 1/4 Wolf... she is an instinctive hunter and kills ALL small animals-- even tried to kill my Moms min-pin....(dog)
He keeps saying he wants to bring her up to "play" with our dogs....
Zoey, our young lab does NOT like strange dogs....
Bear, our Older Lab is arthritic, going blind, and afraid of anyone "rambunctious".
And Bandit-- our Poodle/Chihuahua LOVES everyone/everything-- and would make a very quick snack for his dog--literally....

But he keeps insisting that "everything would be fine-- they'd have a ball together"...

It is my Dad's ONLY blind-spot-- his dog. Maybe her dog is her "blind-spot" but you don't have to put up with being blind-sided by it!

 

[maplesky7]

The thing is...You don't OWE anyone an explanation.

**You said...her dog can come as long as it stays in the vehicle, otherwise, there are no dogs allowed on the property. Period.

Offering up reasons why not, only encourages one to come back with reasons why it could or should be.

And you are the care taker of the land and animals on that property and you do have boundries and one of them being...no dogs allowed.

I would have no problem telling her in a cool and collective manner, I appreciate your fondness for animals but I can not have your dog on the property. If you have a problem following this rule, I will have no choice but to find a new farrier. We agreed that your dog could stay in your vehicle, this rule was broken, this will be your warning. If this continues to be a problem you will not be invited back.

If you think her work is done well and properly...you can add:

I appreciate your services and would like you to continue work here as long as we are clear about the rules.


me,
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[maplesky7]

I also like Mama clucks idea and wording.


I do think her being that disrespectful demands attention.


me,
g

 

[Black Feather]

Thanks so much, all the advice IS appreciated.

I don't want to alienate anyone without due cause, but this issue is not something that I can allow to slide by unaddressed. I think as suggested I will try to have a chat with her once I cool down, which may take a little while. You guys are right, getting angry will not solve anything, but I'm getting mighty tired of people behaving badly and I find as I get older I've started to accept it less and less often than in the past.

My stumbling block is I don't like being confrontational. It takes me a little while to select my words so as to get my point across yet not offend and burn bridges totally.

I'm surprised to see so many other people having somewhat similar issues and I'm really sorry to hear about the other cases! I just can't believe people would insist on pushing their own beliefs and desires on others even when it's been explicitly stated otherwise.

The thing is, I like dogs, I just don't want them on my property. I also can't believe how many dog related issues there seems to be overall.....makes me shake my head many, many times over.

UC

 

[Cetawin]

Quote:
First, no your are not wrong. Dogs are not allowed on your property...if she wants your business she needs to respect that.

Second...as far as what is wrong with her...sounds like another irresponsible dog owner. If she does not care enough to understand that her dog should not be there and let's her out, she does not care about her dog being injured or injuring someone else's dog.