Not a Pleasant topic...bleah

[Lunachick]

Anngili - OMG

I kinda feel bad for complaining.....You're poor mom, and now you. I know that RA is hereditary, now I'm thinking about my daughters! I hope they mostly get whatever good genes we have.....Thanks for the chocolate! I LOVE chocolate. I wish you well!

Citygirl - Thank you, I'm going to ask about alternatives, this is very good to know, thank you.

vkp - I'm sorry you have problems like this at such a young age. Yes DH is on anti depressants too.

Wow, this is very common! I had no idea....

Your stories are making me feel a lot better about things, you know, not so alone.

 

[vkp23]

Anngili, I've been there whith mother's mood swings. I'm sorry your mother passed.

My mother is severe manic depressive or bi-polar one. She would get very abusive some times. I was 18 and was beat on into the fetal position with at wooden spoon at 18. I didn't have sex til my husband, but when I dated the only guy I dated before my husband I was a slut. the guy dumped me because I wouldn't sleep with him! When I turned 18 she used my SS# and name to get credit cards and maxed them out and didn't pay the bills. I was $5,000 in debt for charges SHE made. We have paid them off now but my credit is still so shot I can't get approved for anything. A few weeks after my husband proposed I decided I was "ready". She found out and lost it. The day I got married was the worse day of my life, and not because of him. I always wanted my grandpa to perform the wedding (he's a preacher) and I lost that chance because she told my grandparents and he refused to do it. We lived with my mom for 7 months after that and it was he** on earth! It was SO bad, we kept old juce bottles to pee in so we wouldn't have to leave our room cause every time we left our room to go to the bathroom it was another 4 hour fight about something. Mostly how I'm a whore and my husband is a dirty trickster. when I told her I was pregnant with my first...OMG THAT was a fight becuase we shouldn't be doing the things that make babies. And we had moved out by then. Oh and I hated her for moving out. My mother is not a bad person. She has a big heart and I know with out a doubt she loves me and my brothers. She is very smart. But the mental illness causes her to act unlike herslef. For the past tree years she has finally been able to get proper help and is currently on three dif meds for the bi-polar alone. Not to mention the other 8 things that are wrong with her physically. She honestly has no memory of any of that stuff she did and has cried and apologized for it many times. I don't hole it against her because having clinical depression myself as well as my anxiety disorder I know and understand that it isn't somthing you can control or stop with out proper help. God bless and take care, and you too Luna! that commercial is right when it says depression not only hurts you but others around you. It is also true that admitting you have a problem is the first step to healing. I refused to believe I had a problem til one night I had a dream that seemed so real I thought it was surpressed memory. Cused a bit of disturbance in the fam. I realized then that if I can have a dream that I take so litterally as true there was something wrong. I sought help.

 

[chickenzoo]

Hubby has to go on predisone quite often for his lungs for long periods of time. The Navy hospital use to tell me there weren't any side affects - I told them I'd lock them in a room with him while he was on a high dose and let them say something to him to p**s him off (which could be anything)............. He still crys when ever he has to take it because he knows it turns him into a monster.

 

[Whispering Winds]

Yes, they change the person. Our old family doctor told my husband years ago that every thing we take has a side effect, one way or the other. My husband takes over $2000 worth of medications a month;

Thank the Lord for good insurance, but he isn't the same person I married whatsoever. I had told him for a long time that between the diabetes and his meds, he was different. He treated everyone else pretty good, until the last year he worked, and just a few weeks ago he ran into two guys he had worked almost 30 years with told him what a jerk he was to them at work, and how they were all scared of him because he was so mean and would fall asleep at the drop of a hat when he sat down to eat. I was SO happy that someone else told him, because you all know the dw is the last person they listen too in most cases. This floored him, as anyone who knew him back then knew what a wonderful, generous, kind hearted person he was. He is much better now, but it was so bad for a year or so after he went out on disability,

and we had to get use to being together 24/7 as well as his illness and a little grandson we were raising, I was ready to take dgs and move to one of our rentals. Keep the faith, it does get better in most cases, when things get leveled out, but if it doesn't, call the doctor and TELL them something is not right. That is another thing I found out dh did, tell the doctor everything was GREAT, and I caught on one day when he slipped and said something like that and I started calling the day before his appts. and telling the truth. Made a world of difference!!! For one thing, they aren't thinking straight and for another, men don't want to be bothered. . .or sound like they are complaining. Our doctor will be slick too, and just casually ask the right questions to get the real story out of him, and not involve me, which would quite easily cause WW III.