I'm going to contact the University of Tennessee vet school tomorrow to see if they can be of some assistance. If these two test positive I will cull my flock because I think it is the responsible thing to do. I don't show, however my son, who is 6, does. He has one adult who i will have a hard time culling. He's won grand champion and reserve grand champion with her in two of the 3 shows he's been to. Would it be possible to have her tested and spare her if she's negative?
Sadly, Seminolewind has it right. If one of your birds has or had Marek's, you must assume that they have all been exposed. Even if they never become symptomatic they will still shed the live virus and can infect other birds.
If-- IF -- it is Marek's, there isn't really a good reason to cull your birds unless you just want to get rid of them. Even if you culled them all, the virus can live in the environment... the coop, the soil, etc.. for years, waiting for a host! You could cull your flock, sanitize your coop, ruin your soil with chemicals... and it'd only take a tiny bit of missed dander or virus to reinfect any new birds you brought home. So you can see, it's pointless to cull. Unless you just want to get out of chickens (all of us with this disease have probably considered that at one point..).
Marek's is a herpesvirus, and, as with the herpesvirus family, is very good at waiting in dormancy for a host.
This is why testing can be so important, especially if you are not 100% sure it's Marek's. If your bird tests negative, you can reasonably expect to be Marek's free in your entire flock. If your bird tests positive, you can reasonably expect to be Marek's positive in your entire flock (and any other chicken on the property.. the dander that it is spread on can travel pretty easily).
As far as showing, if you test positive, you can assume your son's show hen probably carries the virus as well. So, that is a personal dilemma. If she (the show hen) has developed immunity/resistance, studies suggest that she will shed much less of the live virus than an actively sick bird. But she still might shed it, and if any of the other birds at the poultry show are not vaccinated, there is a risk they could get sick. How much risk is hard to say.. there are so many variables! Stress, proximity, etc.. all can play a role. At the same time, Marek's is common enough that one can almost assume that at any given show, there is a chance that a Marek's positive bird is present, making it pointless to worry (meaning: If you take birds to shows, there is always small, maybe tiny, chance they will get the disease anyhow). I don't envy you the decision.
A blood test could help you make better educated choices, if you are able to do one.
I know these are a lot of hard decisions! I wish you the best. Many of us have been through this already and you have support here if you need it.