Not Happy

[debilorrah]

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I strongly disagree with this comment, at least the first sentence. The rest of the post is valid in dealing with most difficult people. However, not everyone's mother is a kind, loving person deserving of equal respect. A person can respect their mother for being their mother without having to put up the caustic remarks and running of lives that come with some mothers.

At 47 years of age, I had an AH HA moment with my own mother, hung up on her and basically never looked back. We are in contact, and she now knows her boundaries, and if she tries to cross them I stop her in her tracks. She has learned a kinder way to share her concerns about my lifestyle and my son's goals. She has also said alot of things about me in front of my nephews that is repeated to me, much to her chagrin. She is who is she is.

I am equally sure that the OP came here for a bit of guidance and not judgement. Her difficult relationship with her mother may just teach her kids that she is a better parent than gramma and they will love and respect her all the more for it.

 

[CrazyFowlFreak]

My mother and MIL, for that matter, live in their own little created world. We smile and nod and let things go because someday they'll be gone and we'll miss them, if not their nonsense and drama. Good luck <3

 

[newchknmama]

I can totally sympathize! My MIL came to visit several years ago and we had a falling out, she didn't like how I was raising my 4 children or handling finances so she went off on me and made me cry. When my hubby came back from fishing that day I was a wreck. He told her he wouldnt have her treating me like that and she left in a cab and flew back home. he hasnt spoken to her since (4 years) and I only cordially respond to her emails or let her talk to the kids on their birthdays. She did apologize to me but we will never be close like we were. I am ok with that.. we just say that we have our own families now and that is what is important and we dont need negative people in our lives.

 

[Mattemma]

Would it be possible to just call and tell her not to come? I guess I would do that if I wasn't having anything to do with the person anyway. We generally put up with a lot of poor behavior when it comes to family,but at some point you gotta say ENOUGH. Life is to short to share it with people who make you unhappy.

 

[herfrds]

All of you are right.
I don't need her critisim about how I do things or how my kids act or what we do for a living.

I've just reached the point of "I'm done."

It is going to be hard cutting off contact, but for my family and myself's well being it is the best thing I can do.

Thank you all for the support. I really needed it.