Note to self: DO NOT talk to hubby

[terrilhb]

 

[ranit]

Boy, do I understand!!! If there are two ways to do something my husband and I will always have different opinions on how it should be done. I have learned he won't listen to my ideas, but if I tell our son to come over and help and have him suggest my way I can often get it done that way then.

 

[hickchick55]

I can so sympathize with you. My husband and I have had quite a few arguments already and we are still in the design phase. I know from past experience (with our house) though, that I need to stand my ground now and get what I want, because when he starts to build (whenever this snow goes away), that he will get in the "zone" and he won't listen to me anyway. He didn't think I needed a walk- in coop. Wrong. That one took a few days, but I will have a walk- in coop and a walk- in run. So good luck and when it is over you will be friends again and you will have a new coop!

 

[Momagain1]

whats funny is that our anniversary is coming up soon...and HOPING that he gets a LOT done today..so that the next wk he's off (not next..but the following)..
he'll be completely done by the time our anniversary is on that saturday...

 

[dianaross77]

I think it's tough for most men to admit they don't know everything or have everything under control. I am always glad my husband and I work so well together. That's mainly because he's handy and smart and I'm a good problem solver and do what I'm told (mostly

). However, we hate having anyone else help us. That's why we completely remodeled our kitchen with no help from anyone else. If you add one person to our mix, that's when the fights start! But it's always hard working on projects when no one really knows what they are doing. At least it'll be over soon!

 

[sutillman]

Well I have the opposite problem. I'm the woodworker/builder. He's the one sitting in the chair spounting advice when he can't drive a nail. Drives me nuts. Doesn't know anything at all about chicken's except when I start to sell my grown birds, oh you can't sell that one it's my favorite. He has alot of favorites. I usually try to time it so he's not home when I get rid of anything. He never even notices when one's gone.

 

[dsqard]

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That is when you smile, nod and say yes dear, then just go do what you know is the right thing to do.

 

[AlabamaChickenLady]

My husband has been very good at building the coop and making all the changes I want done. BUT, it wasn't always that way. In the beginning, I was researching and reading everything I could get my hands on. We both were raised on farms and we don't remember it being this hard.

He was upset that I was researching and we would argue all the time.... "You just slap together a coop and there you go! What is there to read about?" So I tell him, "Do you think that maybe man has advanced and things may have changed in the last 30 years since we were kids? Maybe, just maybe technology, breeding, feeding, and housing has come a long way in 30 years! And maybe as kids we didn't know what all it took to keep them alive!" He just stood there for a minute, then muttered "Ok, read all you want. I'll build what ever you want."

So I tell him what I need and he builds it, his way. And I don't care as long as it works, & gets the job done. But sometimes, I do still have to explain my reasons for wanting or needed things built or added.

 

[happyhensny]

Sorry, but my DH and I argue about building coops too! Grrr.... I try to do it, then he gets all bent and takes over and tries to blame me for it. UGH! He really is a great guy, just a big ole fussy face...

 

[sutillman]

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That is when you smile, nod and say yes dear, then just go do what you know is the right thing to do.

Well I usually just give him "the look" and do what I had planned anyway.