Now I remember why I have not had friends for a long time!!!!!!

[Animalian]

I'm a bit of a loner, I'm a have a best friend and that's it kind of person. I have had a few, one I lost contact when I changed schools, one when he got kept down and we suffered intense bullying because we were a boy and girl that were really close but not dating, one got cancer so stopped coming to school and lived an hour away from me so it was hard to keep contact especially with her hospital visits even further away... the last best friend I had turned evil, she would always put me down, try and make friends with 'cool' people then back to me when she was rejected, try to outdo me in EVERYTHING, and punch me in the arm "jokingly" but it really hurt and the amount of effort she put into it she must have known it would. I ditched her when she changed schools and moved about 1 1/2 away. Just ignored her calls cut contact... she gave up quickly.

I'm out of school now, I find 'favourite people' out of what I have, but not another best friend yet. I find I tend to get irritated or bored with people now. They talk about their appearance and 'how hot' someone is etc... I do not care, I refuse to pretend to care either...
At my old work we used to discuss evolution, religion and the biological working of the world. Those people I loved, I tried to inspire friendship but it just kindof.... flaps around. It's more like 'just an old collegue' I keep in contact with now, and any catch up tends to be restricted to nicetys rather than the old discussions....

Have pets does help take away the loneliness

I honestly think it would be fun to run away with them all and be a hermit somewhere!

 

[kuntrygirl]

They are not worth the worry or time. You are too good for these air heads and they don't deserve someone like you. Kick'em to the curb and spend that time with your family.

My very true friends are people that I grew up with and girls I met in college. My very best friend and I have been friends for 35 years. Her grandmother paired us up at church and introduced us many years ago and we instantly were a perfect pair. My other 6 friends are girls I graduated from college with. We have been friends for 25 years.

Be careful with those "friends" who go to you and talk about others or those who want to tell you something that someone told them but that person told them not to tell anyone. If they are talking about others and sharing some else's secret, they will do the same to you. Run Forest Run. Run as fast as you can away from them. They are nothing but trouble.

 

[sonew123]

Aw Kim Im sorry what a bunch of terds!

I have very few friends that I do anything with..It is typically my sister or one of 3 SIL's...Really, that's it unless my softball team gets together for cocktails and wings...Other than that-as someone mentioned..I have met some of the most wonderful people on BYC that have changed my life and I am so greatful...We talk everyday-text and we make sure we all see eachother at least 1-2x a year...We love eachother..Im still in awe that chickens brought us all together

you are too good for them -let them play thier games-what comes around goes around.. we're here for yah!

 

[chickened]

I see an opportunity for you to do more things with your husband and kids. The others you mentioned are not your friends.

 

[Mattemma]

Sometimes a person will hang out with you until someone they prefer is avaliable.Getting social with co-workers and neighbors can be a tricky thing.Taker a break and then try again in some other kind of setting.

I have 2 good friends.One from HS and another a former co-worker.They live an hour away so I see then once a year,but we talk often.My daily life centers around the family,and I am fine with that. I find going out to be a hassle,but I have friends that almost NEED that to feel satisfied.If you do need more of an outlet consider joining a group with similar interests.Even going to the Y or a park walk can lead to some interesting connections.

I am just sorry you had to come across these people when they lied to you.Ah well I suppose it is best to find out now before you invested a lot in them.Deep down they know that their friendship(with each other) is shallow and they will screw each other.For now they pretend.Good you are out of that loser loop.

 

[cravenchx]

I don't mean to be a snark, but
how old are ya'll?

 

[kimisfishing]

I love my virtual friends, you guys never say:
hey your late
do you have any money
that shirt does not look good on you ( lol)
will you come over and ?????????


I do like my virtual freinds better than real time people, I tell my bus kids all the time that the more people I know I like them better..

it is true and it makes them feel good.

 

[kimisfishing]

I'm 52

 

[Avalon1984]

My husband is my best friend and I can always count on him. Everything else seems like a huge waste of time. My "friends" were never there when I needed them so why bother?

 

[welsummerchicks]

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I would not from this decide not to do anything with anyone ever.

One thing I learned many, many years ago, people mostly do their own thing and the best thing you can do is just not get worked up about it. I had one friend who was always forgetting or not showing up so I just stopped calling him. There are a lot of other people around who are better at remembering things and scheduling activities.