Now I remember why I have not had friends for a long time!!!!!!

[kimisfishing]

I have not had friends for a long time because it seemed to me that most people just want something for free from me. I finally started making friends at work and again am disappointed in people.
We had a group of 5 gals that used to do friday nights at one house and just play games and talk all night. Well the past 3 months I have been left out, which is fine One other is being left out also and I really dont mind that much.
One gal has a problem with 2 of them doing anything without her, she really throws a fit and has been staying at their house all weekend alot insuring they dont leave her out. LOL that is really sad.
I have made plans with one gal a few times now and the other always just shows up and I am left alone This is ok sometimes, but tonight takes the cake.
2 of us had planned to go out alone and we were really excited about it. I called and she was tired so I said ok, we can do it some other time.
I went out alone, and guess who showed up?????? The other 3 gals.
Well fine, I now know where I stand, I will not do this again and they can just leave me alone.
I am tired of sneaking around so one does not get upset and I will not be second fiddle to someone that is dishonest and not a true friend.
I have a life and family that I like being around and I also have chickens

. I will just stay to myself and hang out here.......
Sorry for the rant but I am very angry and hurt that I fell for this.
It was nice having friends for a while..

 

[SourRoses]

They sound very childish.

Sometimes you just come to the realization that some people were never true friends.

I know it can be a little hurtful... especially in that it would not have been bothersome in the first place if they had their friends and stuck with them... instead some "clicky" types go to all the effort to drag unwilling participants into their circle, only to boot them back out again when they've filled whatever purpose. Numbers, attention, ect.

I just tend to avoid people like that. I try so much to be polite and nice to folks I encounter day-to-day.. that often people think I'm some kind of push-over.. and then when they get to know me better.. are shocked that I'm nothing of the sort. It's pretty weird, actually. I have one sort-of friend who I have known over a handful of years by now... but she still doesen't "get me" because our friendship started with her thinking I was shy... LOL

Dealing with girls in numbers... it usually has alot to do with how many times you praise their hair, their clothes, ect ect. How many times you are there for them... and some of that sort just don't ever want to reciprocate. But their are other kinds of gals out there... ones who have real interests and genuine feelings... so you just have to hold out for some friends who are not in some rendition of a popularity contest.

 

[flyjam1979]

that's not cool at all, i don't have many friends, but my best friend is my hubby, but i'm kinda anti social, and humans are annoying...............esp. women......cheer up everything happens for a reason, besides if they act like that you so dont need them

 

[Fierlin1182]

There are a lot of people I don't reckon are worth the effort. I know the sort you describe, I always used to get booted out or put in "second place" among my group of friends. I no longer socialise with them, we still say hi and catch up sometimes, and I'm a lot happier now. Eventually the good people come along. I have a few real friends now. We joke, we laugh, but they're always looking out for me when I'm not feeling my best.

(Flyjam, I'm a bit antisocial too. I'd much rather enjoy something on my own or with family than have a load of friends around

)

 

[kimisfishing]

You are all right, I have my husband and kids so dont need anyone else, I have 13 brothers and sisters that I dont talk to either LOL
I must be anti social too.......
just wondering if I am strange or are they all just messed up???? LOL
It is them...

 

[Fierlin1182]

We're the different ones but they're the ones who are strange.

 

[Sissy]

With friends like that you dont
need enemys
they are not worth your time.
acting like children in grade school.

 

[kimisfishing]

I agree they can just hang together

 

[justbugged]

Well I am in this group too. I lost 3 friends who were what I thought were extremely close friends dump me flat, and very to talk to me again, in just the space of 2 years. It was a really bad time during the next few years, and even now I am very leery about being friends with anyone. I am always willing to be there if someone asks me, but I no longer volunteer to reach out to people. I think it is about who I am, a lot of people tend to dislike me on sight. But then I also meet people that are wonderful, and I love to have 10 minute friendships. I often wish that I could be someone that people really liked.

 

[Highlander]

I have made better friends online, specifically through BYC, than I have in person during the course of my life. People like that are simply not worth the effort. Concentrate your energies into people that really "get" you - like us!