Office Work, Part Deux: Professional Mayhen

[Southernbelle]

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DH is a but-head. DD#1 needs to stay off wheat. He told her something along the lines of "what mom doesn't know won't hurt her" thereby teaching my best girl that lying via sneaking is a-okay. I'm soooo depressed. He already did this with SS.
I feel like my kids are dancing toword a cliff and not only am I wading through jello trying to save them, I have a ball and chain telling them "dance faster! It's fun! Don't listen to her, I never do"!

To McFly's DH:

I would be so mad if my DH did that! He'd never been around little kids as he was growing up and considering I was the oldest girl out of 6 and I practically raised my youngest sister and I had 30-something cousins (95% younger than me) and I baby-sat a lot....he was okay following my lead on child-rearing techniques. I'm so grateful I never had to fight with him about raising our kids.

On the other hand, being an engineer and growing up poor, he's got issues with money, so to feel safe, he controls the budget. I keep saying we'd have plenty of money if he didn't keep saving it all! He's doing things right and we're going in a good direction, but I sure wish I could spend as much as I wanted at the grocery store!

x 100

 

[mclevinson]

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DH is a but-head. DD#1 needs to stay off wheat. He told her something along the lines of "what mom doesn't know won't hurt her" thereby teaching my best girl that lying via sneaking is a-okay. I'm soooo depressed. He already did this with SS.
I feel like my kids are dancing toword a cliff and not only am I wading through jello trying to save them, I have a ball and chain telling them "dance faster! It's fun! Don't listen to her, I never do"!

To McFly's DH:

I would be so mad if my DH did that! He'd never been around little kids as he was growing up and considering I was the oldest girl out of 6 and I practically raised my youngest sister and I had 30-something cousins (95% younger than me) and I baby-sat a lot....he was okay following my lead on child-rearing techniques. I'm so grateful I never had to fight with him about raising our kids.

On the other hand, being an engineer and growing up poor, he's got issues with money, so to feel safe, he controls the budget. I keep saying we'd have plenty of money if he didn't keep saving it all! He's doing things right and we're going in a good direction, but I sure wish I could spend as much as I wanted at the grocery store!

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SS hardly tolerates me, and part of that is because I handled the situation badly. But My DD never HAD to lie to me before, and now she's got secrets she doesn't need to have and brand new values she never needed either. I'm depressed because financially, I can't make it on my own. DH? I hate having to protect the kids from his stupidity, and I hate living without emotional support. I kinda feel like roomates with kids, only its time for him to move on. I DO have a plan, but it's going to take a couple years and will my kids be ruined by then?

 

[LarryPQ]

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I will be there---I wont be doing any lifting or totoing, but I will be happy to dig holes and stick seeds in the ground.



Back from doctor's office---Probably have bursitis and tendonitis of the AT. He gave me some Celebrex samples as an anti-inflammatory, told me to go buy some orthotics, to sit on my ace and ice the crap out of it. I have been perscribed pool time this weekend and no kid chasing.

So--I am going to hobble in my orthotic shoes over to the freezer and get some ice. Then I am going to find some chocolate or cookies or something and check out.

 

[Orchid]

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I don't know that your kids will be "ruined" by then, but that's an awfully long time to be miserable.

So, I heard on the radio at lunch that some lady in Alaska let her dacshund out to potty, heard him barking and looked out the window to see a bear carrying him away like a salmon. Not thinking, she ran out the door, punched the bear in the face, retrieved her dog and ran back in the house. The bear ran away. The dog is fine.

Michelle, new slogan: Alaska - where the women kick ass and the bears are afraid.

 

[Buff Hooligans]

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You need to have quality time with AKMichelle. That's all I'm gonna say.

 

[ChickenAlgebra]

Kids amazingly do seem to recover from a lot of crap. Or at least turn out half way normal. Ok, fine, I'm 1% normal, but still. 17 y/o foster kid is remarkably well off considering the crap he got at home.

But a couple of years is a long time to be miserable, and it's not hard for a couple of years to turn into 3 years, then oh wait for the school year to get done, then wait till the kid finishes at X school, so on and so forth until all the kids are out of the house and you are still miserable.

How many people HAVEN'T handled any number of situations badly? No one. But the bigger problem is the kids are learning to lie and that lying to you, then potentially ANY authority figure, is acceptable. That's hard enough to deal with when you don't have someone encouraging that behavior behind your back. It's only going to get worse, teenagers come up with enough dumb ideas on their own, get encouraged to lie by class mates/friends, and they don't need a parent telling them the same.

 

[jbowyer01]

Oh my goodness. Mcfly and Laree ((HUGS)) and positive thoughts being sent your way!

Orchy that poor little doxie!! I probably would have done the same thing. I've taken on snakes before while juggling to doxies in my arms that were trying to kill the snake. BUT nothing like a bear (note to self think about moving farther south to keep away from bears!) I love my mini monsters.

 

[Orchid]

Well, honestly, I probably would have done the same thing too - but I might have grabbed something a little sturdier than my fist on the way out the door.

We have an increasing number of cougars here and I heard one of the chickens making a fuss the other day - I was off across the yard with never a thought for what might be the cause of the ruckus. Of course, all it turned out to be was one of the stooopid Welsummers who couldn't see the other chickens.

Humans are dumb.

Chickens are dumber.

 

[jbowyer01]

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Seriously think about how unhappy you are Mcfly, could it really be worse? Your the one that has to decide that. I have a friend who has been miserable in her marriage for years. She kept saying when her last DS graduated that was it she was leaving, well she'd still there, still unhappy, and still making excuses such as she cant leave until she has a savings, she cant leave until her DS moves out etc etc....She's spent the last 25 years unhappy.

 

[LarryPQ]

Made devil's food box cake cookies with extra chocolate chip cookies.