Office Work, Part Deux: Professional Mayhen

[ibpboo]

Good morning Deb!

 

[sparkles2307]

Morning all.

Sorry to hear about your brother Ducky, sounds like that girl isnt worth it.

Busy weekend.

 

[mclevinson]

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She well just not let go.... the brother and his X were out walking on friday and then and today there were pictures of the brothers X and another man holding hands at a fashion show smiling and just making me want to gag. She is disgutsing

Sorry to hear about your brother Ducky. It's a bad situation.

Me too Ducky. How old is he?

 

[maple]

What's sparkles looking at in your avie? You're cute. Is it a bug? Is it a seed pod? What is it? g wants to know.



Ducky...you're brother needs to let go too. This has been an unhealthy relationship it seems from the get go and has been going around and around and around. There are some people who crave this attention as it seem the girl does and then there are others who hold on to the hope and promise of something that perhaps once was there but no longer is but really really want it to rekindle again. Her track record speaks for itself. Your brother has to be made aware that life will continue without her and it will get better and doors won't open for him until he really lets go of her and realizes he can stand on his own two feet. It's within himself to be happy...relying on another is only doom if you think that is what makes you happy. A relationship has ups and downs...like all relationships...with friends and family and significant others. It's a give and take and one person can't be the one always giving while the other is taking, it won't work. Forget this girl, she sounds like she's got too many issues with her self esteem that she has to go bebop with others and make life hell just for the attention.

And furthermore, if she had any real feelings for your brother she wouldn't be so loose with herself and wouldn't disrespect him in that way...which only further degrades herself in the process. Life is full of people in the world and you just never know when or where you might find the one person who's going to be the one that you could actually grow old with...flaws and all on both parties. I'm a 38 year old woman who spent 10 years in an abusive relationship and for 3 years never batted an eye at anyone nor did anyone spark my interest in the first place. In 3 years you have time to reflect on who you are and what it really means to be alone and you get used to it, comfortable with it, accustomed to it. Sure there were times when I thought it would be nice to have someone there to have an adult conversation with or to cuddle up to and watch a movie....and I'd pray to God that someday that someone might make themselves known to me. But I couldn't let it define me. I am my own person, just as your brother is. That "girl" does not define him. She does not make him a better man. He does not cease to exist if she is not standing next to her. He is his own being. He has positive attributes that were God given and he needs to realize he is worthy. He is worthy of love and I do not mean of her love...I mean love in general. He has family and friends and a God whom love him dearly...and one day, yes, one day...he WILL find that person who loves him and treats him well...but it's not this girl. So really...as much as you say she needs to let go...so does he. He needs to be strong and say no to her advances and come hithers. No. It's simple really. Once he starts that then it will get much easier to avoid her.

Do they have a child together? I can't remember if I'm thinking of the right person or not. At any rate, even if they will continue to have ties because of a child...it really will be easy not to "fall" back in "love" and I cringe at the word used in this sentence...but he will see her for who she is and how she treats him and it will become easier with time to deal with her on a platonic level--almost like in business...respectful and to the point....here's kid...here's clothes...might be on meds if sick-take 3x day...ok, see ya in a few days. bye bye. No more small talk. Just keep it simple. No more feelings for someone who isn't sharing the same feelings...cuz it's a dead end road. Turn back and go another way...a way that will bring happiness and not disaster.

k...that's g's words of wisdom for the day.


Morning everyone. I'm very tired.

 

[sparkles2307]

G, I'm looking at some fuzzies on the tip of the cool pink prairie grass in the preserve a few miles from our house.

 

[maple]

< and i pick a pink fuzzy and tickle you!

My kids do that with the fuzzy grass and tease our cats with em.

 

[ChickenAlgebra]

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Yep, that's more than my monthly grocery budget. I wondered about that. Now I can tell my husband that folks on welfare can spend more on groceries that I do, especially since my "grocery" budget also must include non-grocery items like shoes, clothing, pet food, vet visits, back-to-school shopping, diapers, chicken feed, cleaning supplies and lunch money.

I hate talking to my husband about money, he gets cranky.

I will say, with the meat chickens/turkeys/pigs, if I REALLY work at it, I can get our family well under $400 a month, which shocks people. But that's straight groceries only, not including animal food and such.

 

[Orchid]

Hi guys!

Ducky,

for you and your brother. I don't know the whole background on your brother's situation but please know I am thinking of him and your family.

maple, I think cute neighbor sounds like he is even better on the inside than on the outside. I like him and I don't even know him.

I ran my first official 5k on Saturday and did much better than I expected - 29:50!

Obviously I wasn't breaking any land speed records or anything, but that was a good time for ME, and I am thrilled with it!

Grocery money...eeek...I need a new budget and I need one NOW. We've been spending way too much lately and we have to cut back.

 

[LarryPQ]

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And just what is coming out of your butt? Maintain!!!

 

[LarryPQ]

Ducky: