I had the mediation tonight...just got home and my blood is boiling and my eye is twitching.
He didn't try to compromise one bit and now it goes before the judge and who knows what the judge will decide. My lawyer told me not to have it go to the judge but what was I supposed to do? He wanted what he wanted and he wouldn't break it up. I said, ok, have them for a week after Christmas, a week on spring break, but it's not ok to have them for the whole month of July. You need to break it up...a month is too long. The mediator said it was way too long for the girls and that he needed to think of the girls.
We kept trying to come up with something that he would agree too but he wouldn't and said, nope, a whole month and not split up. That's bull. Calling my lawyer in the morning and so help me if I need to get a guardian ad lidem...I'll do it. He can't expect me to hand over my children to his crazy abusive sorry excuse of a man.
I need help from my Lord like never before to intercede and put in in Wayne's heart to think of the children and to always put thier needs before his own. Then he even brought up my decision to put my youngest under for a short spell while she gets a catheder to explore why she's getting so many bladder infections. He doesn't think I should let them put her down. I explained to him that I talked to my sister who's daughter had it and it was VERY traumatic and it took many people to hold her down (she's a toddler) and it took a long time to do the test because she was soo terrified and it hurt. I said I talked to the school nurse who's daughter is in my oldest daughter's class and she said she had to do that and opted for her to be put down while they inserted it but then they wake them up immediatley because they need them awake to urinate while they run the test. I asked him why he would allow her to go through that trauma? He said he just wanted to talk to the dr. I don't have a problem with him talking to the dr. but by God if he gets to call the shots when he hasn't been a part of thier lives since the youngest was 8 months and the oldest was 5 yrs...and now they are 4 almost 5 and 9 years old. God help us...please, I beg of you to make this man go crawl under the rock in which he came. He can focus on these girls now and pays no mind to his son...and I know it's partly due to the other woman in his life which I know will only be a passing relationship, knowing him and his ways and if she tolerates it for how long? Please God help me and my little girls.
g needs strength right now and maybe some of that pipe for protection.