I have to say that it breaks my heart that a lot of rescuers become so hateful and bitter and make God decisions. At least that is what I call it. I did cat rescue back in California for a woman there. We refused to deal with the human society and their workers as they were so mean and hateful to new pet owners and applications. I did that for four and a half years until I moved and no longer was able to have more than my one personal cat. She was so cool about really checking into people to make sure that the home was good and that her interview with them personally fit the bill. She always spayed and neutered before adopting out and had a better idea of what makes a happy home - including pet homes with children. I enjoyed my time working for this lady and really learned a lot and had a lot of respect for her. In that time I also had a lot of dealings with other rescuers that were like this lady in the OP story. And I still to this day run into them with other animals I am involved with. I think they get burried in their way is the only way and it only hurts the animals involved. I mean, get the animal a home and open up space for a new one to get the same chance.
I am sorry to hear you were treated so badly. I hope that you are able to find something for your family and your daughter.
I am sorry to hear you were treated so badly. I hope that you are able to find something for your family and your daughter.