OOHH!UGGH!GRRR!Rant Hubby's Ex! NEED TO VENT!!!!!!!!!!

[therealsilkiechick]

i go through this with 2 kid's here. my son to my x-that lives with us when he goes on visits and when my stepson comes here for his visits with his dad. ours r both court ordered visits.

SHE has no control what so ever as to what goes on in your home it is none of her business legaly unless it is a danger to her kid's, hospital care ect(major things). ur periods of custody r just that ur custody not her's. u are a step parent, she has no right to put u down or say anything bad against u and she should encouradge a healthy relationship with their dad as well as with dad's side of the family, all of them. kid's r not to be go betweens and put in the middle and the mom is wrong for sticking her nose in. she is trying to give them anything they want and favor them so u guys look like the bad person and that is not right at all. ur house rules since they r under ur roof is what those kid's should be abideing by and should respect. she is not liveing with u and has no say. trust me i've had to deal with stupid stuff just like this in court and any judge would laugh her out of the court room for being so petty.

put ur foot down and when she sends anything to them u have dad open it not u so u don't get the blaim. he can give them what is allowed in the house the rest can be put up till they go back to mom and then they can take it home with them.

 

[chickfillhay]

she has no right to put u down or say anything bad against u and she should encouradge a healthy relationship with their dad as well as with dad's side of the family, all of them. kid's r not to be go betweens and put in the middle and the mom is wrong for sticking her nose in. she is trying to give them anything they want and favor them so u guys look like the bad person and that is not right at all.

You are ALL right! Thanks!

You know what, the ONLY reason she can buy the boys EVERYTHING they WANT is because Hubby pays support. WITHOUT FAIL!!!He loves his boys (as do I) and they deserve their NEEDS. But wants should be curbed! In reality, we have to go without. Even having to sell our home to go to a much smaller one in order to make ends meat. She doesn't even have a mortgage. But the state she lives in pushes for the mother REGARDLESS of the circumstance of the father. As far as the state goes. He had no business starting a new family when he already had one. And therefore he should pay! (she cheated on him and moved in with the boyfriend. thats why they split) (She is no longer with the boyfriend and is mad)
My kids, NO INSURANCE, and the bare minimal for food and thrift store clothing. Her kids have name brand clothing and wonder why they can't eat us out of house and home. (NOT THEIR FAULT FOR THAT ATTIDUDE) But for now Hubby spoke candidly with the boy. Oh and the whole 8pm thing, She is thinking I am so mean to make them go to bed at 8pm! Where did she get that from?! They go to bed pretty much when the movie they ARE allowed to watch is over. That is around 11 or 12ish. At least two hours AFTER I've gone to bed! GRRRR!!!!!
But..thanks for your support in letting me vent!

And yes, I LOVE HUBBY VERY MUCH!!!AS MUCH AS THE DAY WE FELL IN LOVE!!

 

[onthespot]

It's a control issue. Take control. Run that tape through the chipper shredder and send it back to her in a ziploc baggie in pieces. She might get ticked but she won't send another movie like that to your house, and she won't play "chicken" with you any more. Sounds harsh, I know, but just do it if you don't want any more invasions from her into how you run your home.

 

[chickfillhay]

WOW! I'll have to mull that one over with Hubby for a while. Even though I really know she WILL retaliate. It really s%#ks eggs to have to worry all the time about what she can do to them! She will get hers in her own time! We only have about 7 or 8 more summers of this before she looses ALL control. I am looking forward to that day like the end of a prison sentence!

 

[hazelton farms]

In the grand scheme of things, 7-8 more summers isn't all that long.

Probably better to take the high road and just be done with the issue. You told them no. So, No. Your husband told her no. So, No. If she wants to spend ANY time fussing about it beyond this, well, then that's on her and her part of the prison sentence, and frankly, her wasting her own life time. No reason you should let it bother you even once more. Just ship the movies back to her at the end of the time period you have with the kids. If the kids should fuss any more anyway, tell them the movies ARE on those DVD's, you didn't erase them and they are young enough now they could watch those movies another 100 times if they want to, at mom's house.


Stacy

 

[chickfillhay]

I am in absolute agreement with all of you! From now on I will let hubby take the reigns. If the boys come to me with an absolute rediculous request. I'll just make them wait 'till hubby comes home to handle it. That way the ex can't get all upset that I am running my house. It is wonderful that hubby made it clear to her there is only one hen in this chicken coop! I LOVE HIM!!!!!!!

And for the sanity of my household. Everything will go through hubby first. (Well, that's all they need to know) If he is not home. We watch what I allow. Nothing more! Happily my TV is password protected!

THANKS BYC FRIENDS!!!!