- If you are allergic to the dog and no one else will deal with it, find it a new home. Who made the choice to bring the puppy home? That person is in charge of care of the dog. If they are unwilling to care for it then move it on to someone who will care for it.
- How old are your children? If they are old enough to work jobs then they are old enough to do their own laundry and take care of their own cleaning. Stop enabling them. If they don't want to take care of their own personal chores then they should be paying you to do it. You are not their slave. You are their mother and it is your job to get them to the point of self sufficiency. Quit doing their chores for them and they will eventually figure out how to do it. Then you will have one less thing on your plate AND you will have created decent little humans.
- If your kids are old enough to have jobs, then they are old enough to be doing household chores for the family. Do they pay rent? If not, then their rent "payment" is helping out with family chores. Why do you have to do the dishes and all the cleaning? Your kids can take turns cleaning up after dinner. Assign chores on a rotating basis and stand back. This also teaches them to be decent adults AND teaches them that the family is a unit and not just mom working as the family slave. If they do pay rent then up the rent and hire a housekeeper to come help you out.
- If they rebel at having more work to do, THEN go on strike. Don't cook for them, don't clean for them, don't do laundry. If they live in filth and eat PB&J for weeks then so be it. YOU will not be the one going to work in smelly clothes. Legally all you have to supply for the kids is basic food and a roof over their heads. Everything else is gravy.
YOU ARE NOT THE FAMILY SLAVE. It doesn't matter if you have an outside job or not. The very fact that you have serious health concerns should have your family helping out around the house. While you and your husband will have to work out a balance of chores between the two of you, YOU are the mom and get to teach your kids how to do household chores. Stop being a doormat and lay down the law.
I too have chronic health issues. It is draining physically and mentally. Stressing over the household will only make your health worse. Mobilize the family unit. They should be there to care for you.
- How old are your children? If they are old enough to work jobs then they are old enough to do their own laundry and take care of their own cleaning. Stop enabling them. If they don't want to take care of their own personal chores then they should be paying you to do it. You are not their slave. You are their mother and it is your job to get them to the point of self sufficiency. Quit doing their chores for them and they will eventually figure out how to do it. Then you will have one less thing on your plate AND you will have created decent little humans.
- If your kids are old enough to have jobs, then they are old enough to be doing household chores for the family. Do they pay rent? If not, then their rent "payment" is helping out with family chores. Why do you have to do the dishes and all the cleaning? Your kids can take turns cleaning up after dinner. Assign chores on a rotating basis and stand back. This also teaches them to be decent adults AND teaches them that the family is a unit and not just mom working as the family slave. If they do pay rent then up the rent and hire a housekeeper to come help you out.
- If they rebel at having more work to do, THEN go on strike. Don't cook for them, don't clean for them, don't do laundry. If they live in filth and eat PB&J for weeks then so be it. YOU will not be the one going to work in smelly clothes. Legally all you have to supply for the kids is basic food and a roof over their heads. Everything else is gravy.
YOU ARE NOT THE FAMILY SLAVE. It doesn't matter if you have an outside job or not. The very fact that you have serious health concerns should have your family helping out around the house. While you and your husband will have to work out a balance of chores between the two of you, YOU are the mom and get to teach your kids how to do household chores. Stop being a doormat and lay down the law.
I too have chronic health issues. It is draining physically and mentally. Stressing over the household will only make your health worse. Mobilize the family unit. They should be there to care for you.
