My son met a girl online. I was not happy about that. A person online could be a serial killer, or a sexual predator. I think that it was easier for him to meet a girl online because he has tourettes(He jerks and twitches) Some of you might have had experience with 18 year old boys in love. Their minds stop working. He was going to take his money out of the bank and get a bus ticket no matter how much we tried to talk him out of it. Because we didn't want my son in a potentially dangerous situation and he was going to leave anyway, my husband agreed to take him down to Georgia and meet her parents. My son and husband got a hotel. The parents struck my husband as odd, but the girl seemed nice. We agreed that she could come visit if she followed certain rules. My son, who until now, was unmotivated and driving me crazy with his lack of intiative, is taking a welding course so that he can get a better paying job. He has finally gotten his license also so that he can go on dates alone with her. And he is looking into apartments. At the same time, I would rather my son, who is actually smart, go to college and date a lot before he decides that he is suddenly in love. But I know that he has to make his own mistakes. He has never been the type of kid, sadly, who can simply be told he is doing something stupid. He has to experience it for himself. I have expressed my concerns but in the end, I have to let him go. Imagine my surprise when my son's girlfriend informed me that her mom said that I was controlling. Um...how? Apparently, I am keeping my son from quiting his welding coarse and moving down to Georgia so that he can be a skillless worker but live close to his girlfriend's family. I have told my son that he would be an idiot to move close to a family that seems highly dysfunctional and he agrees. But I can not stop a legally grown man from doing anything. It is ultimately his choice to continue with his coarse. Also according to the girlfriend her mother is concerned that I don't MAKE her daughter eat and that her daughter will somehow love me more then her. First, I have three younger children that I have to worry about. I don't have the time or inclination to MAKE a grown woman eat the food I offer. She can do whatever she wants in that regard. Second, considering that my son and his girlfriend are in the cocoon of love when they are together and only see one another, I am uncertain how she could love me more then her mom. Any of you with experience with teenage love? How the heck do you deal with a situation like this? My husband and I met and got engaged within four days! If my stepfather hadn't been against the relationship our love might have petered out. But we of course had to prove we were right and ended up being married twenty years, going on twenty-one. I love my hubby, but I don't want to push my son into a marriage to prove that he is in love.