Parents, Is it too much? Rant... Kinda... Update post #29

[sianara]

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This quote says every single thing I was going to say...

Been there done that for 30 years now!

When I told my MIL I was thinking about getting some honey bees next spring she threw down her fork (we were eating at the time) and said (in a disgusted voice) "ARE YOU SERIOUS?!". My response was "Yes, I'm serious. Why would you think I wasn't?"
As I said above been there and still doing that for 30 years now! Sigh it does get easier if you understand their motives for behaving the way they do but it's never easy!

Get your chickens and enjoy them!

 

[MrsChickendad]

Smile sweetly, agree with her and say, "That's something to consider."

Then change the subject. You're gonna do what you want anyway, so just disarm her by agreeing. She can't argue with that!

 

[gardeningsis]

It can be done.

When my daughter was 3 weeks old I put her in a front sling then later into a back carrier while I fed my 10 horses and the numerous cats, dogs and chickens. We did really well together once we got into our routine. Of course I was always very careful. So share your love of the outdoors with your little one. When your happy your little one will feel it and be happy too

 

[redhen]

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Yup! was going to say that also..
My gram had FIVE kids and she still had a farm and chickens to tend to... plus other farm yard animals.
Tell your MIL shes just had it easy...

 

[Anna_B_Happy]

Honestly, I think relatives mean well....but sometimes people are just too negative. Yes, it will be harder to manage with a new baby, but you don't need to give up everything you love and only focus on a child. Most would say that was not healthly. Moms need to have interests too! Its not all about nursing and playdates!

Also, watching chickens run around the yard is very relaxing.

Anna

 

[Mattemma]

I think you can do it and if not you just sell the chickens.

Babies are tough but you find a way to manage everything. I managed pets and cooking and cleaning while tending to the 2 kids. It is doable.

 

[EweSheep]

I had the chickens when I was pregnant, and had a C section on top of that. Yep I still can take care of my chickens, had 12 of them and it is very manageable! DD is now 6 years old and she loves chickens.

You will find at least five minutes of your time to water and feed the chickens daily. After all you do need a break now and then from your baby when napping times comes up. Take the stroller out there with you and plenty of baby wipes if you need to attend her pacifer or whatever you need to do. Take the baby monitor with you.

My parents are very supportive of having chickens, particuarly my Dad which he was raised around chickens.

Go and get your chickens and to heck with MIL!

 

[scbatz33]

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Actually, She does......

My only reason for holding my toungue is that I can't have chickens at my house, but I work 12 hours a day 7am-7pm taking care of DH's Grandmother, and she lives on my Inlaws property which is a 110 acre ranch. So if I have Chickens, they will be kept here at the ranch​

 

[kelseygirl707]

Thank you soo much guys! I swear this woman confuses me soo much.

Lets just say yesterday was a "Poopy" day. Not only did everything in my first post happen, but I also got to hear how much I suck as a caretaker. Like I said I take care of DH's grandmother 12 hours a day, 5 days a week, then she has a girl that takes care of her on the weekends. Well GMIL was telling MIL how wonderful this weekend girl is, that she cooks, bakes and cleans, and how much she loves her. She would in round about ways basically say I do nothing around here, that it's the weekend girl that does all the vacuuming, mopping, laundry, and overall cleaning, and that I don't even have the supplies she needs around here, so she has to make do. Then she would say things like "When Kelsey is here I stay in my room, because I know she is tired, and not feeling good because she is pregnant." Ummm, I feel fine, and I do EVERYTHING for this woman! She is blind and can't walk, so I transfer her from bed to wheelchair to toilet to living room chair and back all day. I book all of her appointments, I take her to all of her appointments, I cook, Clean, Bake, keep track of her pills, restock her pills and care items, and do her grocery shopping. Searously this lady would be dead without me, but this weekend girl that she never knew until we hired her is gods gift to old people (This woman won't even show up at her funeral, she is only here because we pay her to be)

. MIL could see that the conversation was upsetting me, so she told me to go for a walk, and just relax for a while, and she would watch the GMA. Then last night I went over to pick something up from MIL, and she sat with me and told me that her mom is a (insert word here), and that she has always not appriciated the people who actually care for her. MIL has GMIL living on her property (Built her a house when shw went completley blind), and takes care of all her financials and needs, yet MIL's brother and sister who haven't visited in over a YEAR are the golden children, MIL actually broke down. Then she started saying she needs a vacation to Tahiti. I told her I had a new plan, DH and I are moving to Kauaii, HI, we will become beach bums, spear fish for our meals, and I could have all the chickens I want because they run wild there. THEN GET THIS!, She Says "Oh Kel, you can have all the chickens you want here." WTH! 4 hours ago I was nuts for considering it!

I think I am just going to put off chickens until next spring, when Luke is a little older, just because I cannot deal with this womans split personality! I'm just gonna get some Rabbit hutches and have some quail on my back deck

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[kelseygirl707]

Oh and I should say MIL apparently LOVES chickens, she keeps saying she wants them again, and Even hosted the last Northern California BYC Chickenstock at her Ranch. She has a small fenced Orchard and she has said a thousand times that that is where we can keep the coop, but when I actually start doing it, she says things like she did yesterday, then goes back to wanting them a couple hours later... I am Sooo Confused! I mean she has been this way the 3 years I have known her, but somehow I still let it get to me. DH says I need to just build a coop, bring it over and drop it in her Orchard, and then throw some chickens in, and she will end up loving it.