I need advice on how I break it to my mom that I wouldn't appreciate her around me on a date with a guy. We've had this conversation before and it turned into argueing then yelling. Then me having a fit, some tears, and her reaction to that is "CLEAN THE STOVE, KITCHEN FLOOR, VACCUUM EVERYTHING IN SIGHT" lol. She said "anytime you have a date I'll be driving and I'll pay for everything and I'll eat with you guys too ofcourse" ... ... ... What? I laughed at first, I thought she was kidding! "no I'm serious. It's illegal for someone under the age of 18 to be out with another boy alone." WHAT? Someone clarify that for me. Oh.. Wait..
My mom wants me to date an older guy, that's why she says that. Nevermind. I'm half Korean so in Korea I'd be around the age of 18 (its a year jump thing, the time when the baby is in the womb is counted too). And she wants me to date some guy with high education and all that blah blah.
Well I'm sure a college student who is a studying zombie wants nothing to do with a hyper and weird chicken crazy girl. I like to date guys my age, a year apart ain't bad if he's mature enough. Anyways when I tried to tell her about guys my age she said it doesn't matter.
She knows I'm not one of those girls that opens their legs to every guy and she knows I break the limbs of guys who try something, so why would she be so serious about a touchy subject for me? It's probably touchy for her too, I know that. But.. When I'm on a date with a guy I like I wanna go out on walks with long conversations and sit on swings, go to a movie (that he will tolerate me talking through), or just sit with me with the birds and we can talk about nice things (future kid names!). Unless we're departing I don't want my mom being there hung over me and a guy like a marmoset monkey. I haven't had any dates because I don't want the stress. It needs to stop but I want my mom to know how I feel but she won't let anything pass her brick wall.
What do I tell her?
I am never going to experience my first kiss if she keeps this up. It needs to be special.. No one around.. Just me and a guy. And I do have a guy friend and we've been talking and he knows about all this already. So in a way we're together bf/gf wise, not officially together until I get the OK from the parents. And his parents.
My mom wants me to date an older guy, that's why she says that. Nevermind. I'm half Korean so in Korea I'd be around the age of 18 (its a year jump thing, the time when the baby is in the womb is counted too). And she wants me to date some guy with high education and all that blah blah.
Well I'm sure a college student who is a studying zombie wants nothing to do with a hyper and weird chicken crazy girl. I like to date guys my age, a year apart ain't bad if he's mature enough. Anyways when I tried to tell her about guys my age she said it doesn't matter.
She knows I'm not one of those girls that opens their legs to every guy and she knows I break the limbs of guys who try something, so why would she be so serious about a touchy subject for me? It's probably touchy for her too, I know that. But.. When I'm on a date with a guy I like I wanna go out on walks with long conversations and sit on swings, go to a movie (that he will tolerate me talking through), or just sit with me with the birds and we can talk about nice things (future kid names!). Unless we're departing I don't want my mom being there hung over me and a guy like a marmoset monkey. I haven't had any dates because I don't want the stress. It needs to stop but I want my mom to know how I feel but she won't let anything pass her brick wall.
What do I tell her?
I am never going to experience my first kiss if she keeps this up. It needs to be special.. No one around.. Just me and a guy. And I do have a guy friend and we've been talking and he knows about all this already. So in a way we're together bf/gf wise, not officially together until I get the OK from the parents. And his parents.