Parents who have full access to their kid's Facebook account?

[redhen]

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If you were my child and i caught you making extra FB accts so i couldnt watch what you were doing. You would NOT have access to the internet again in my house. Period.
If you act like a sneak, i'll treat you like you deserve to be treated.
You wouldnt want to live with me..

 

[Illia]

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Get into my account without hacking? No. I don't. My account is private enough that she doesn't and never did know I had a Facebook account.

 

[Moochie]

Ever had one of those secret admirers that only contact you through internet? The only time my parents were involved with my account. This guy was at my school too! Only talked to me online, kept spamming "hello" or "hey cara" like a million times if I was away from the laptop doing something. He stared at me at school alot, creepily stared. Then he yelled out "i love you" in public! I blocked him, but my parents were involved right away. He did things similar to two other girls at my school until he was expelled.
I have my parents go on if I need their help with horrible situations like that.

 

[Moochie]

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If you were my child and i caught you making extra FB accts so i couldnt watch what you were doing. You would NOT have access to the internet again in my house. Period.
If you act like a sneak, i'll treat you like you deserve to be treated.
You wouldnt want to live with me..

My parents know I have dummy accounts, as my dad likes to call them. Dad says to use them if I get hacked also. When I'm a parent and I suspect my kids of suspicious behaviour, I will raid their accounts. They will be punished if I find out they're doing illegal acts. I will contact a parent of a kid who socializes with my own and that kid is trying to persuade my kid into doing drugs or drinking.
Honestly I just want an answer from this friend and I fear her mother is deleting the messages I am sending. I'm asking my friend why she is being rude to Megan and I, not showing up at planned events. No calls, no texts, no voicemails, ugh! We call her and her phone is off. I can see how much it hurts Megan and I have told my friend that if there is a deeper reason (say she doesn't like us or her parents don't like us) then have your mom call Megan's mom or call my mom so if they want nothing to do with us atleast we will know.

 

[MeatKing]

I will have the passwords etc. to my kids accounts when they get old enough to have them.

Funny story, my 5 year old has a pc in her bedroom, my old one. So She plays her learning games on them, she knows how to install a new on and find it on the desk top, she can change the disc herself..

Soo, She had an aunt send her some money so she bought a Webkin. I was tellling her about the online games, with it could play. She knows what the internet is and that her pc doesn't have it. She looks me straight in the face and says, well I guess now you will have to put internet in my bedroom.. I said no internet ever in your bedroom, you can use the pc in the living room.

Then I got to thinking, in other 10 years, internet access will be everwhere and I"m just gonna have to teach her responsability instead of monitering her.

 

[Mattemma]

My dd just got into the net thing.She still shows me her postings before posting. I have cautioned her that someone saying they are a kid could be some pervert trying to hook up.We have talked about girls sending photos to boys,getting teased,and then commiting suicide.

I might want to see what dd is doing online,but in the case of the korean boy I would NOT delete him.Sounds like that mom just has a personal issue with her daughter liking an asian.

 

[bakerjw]

My kids learned the hard way about having a network administrator father. Kids will be kids but they do need to know boundaries and how to live within them. My sons found that out as well.

Small pieces of information on the internet when pasted together can build a much larger picture. There are predators out there and they do know what they are doing and will be sweet and adorable while manipulating and plotting. It's like posting vacation plans on facebook. All it takes is one account with poor security and anyone can know when the house will be empty and who's going to stop by to feed the animals and when.

 

[leadwolf1]

My thoughts are these, and I will try and address your friend's lack of communication also....

While my kids are under my roof, I hate that expression but it will have to do, I have access to ALL wired and wireless internet connected devices. Anything connected to the wireless I pay for I have the ability to access, any time, no notice.

That being said, I do not mess with my kids accounts. That is their business. However, if suspicion arises, I will check. Not snooping because they know that I can do it. My older son started passwording my other son out of his things and 'forgetting' to tell me the passwords...I knew something was up. Yep, tons of porn downloaded...
So, to have dummy accounts is not a good idea. That shows your parents that you are sneaking around...much better to be straightforward and allow your parents access...trust is a hard thing to rebuild..and it is given freely until someone messes up...and that goes for parents too. I would never sneak into bedrooms, etc...they are private places. Respect mine, I'll respect yours.

Now, the friend that won't respond. Maybe her over-protective mom has banned her from communicating with you...maybe she has found some kind of information out that you hide things from your parents and does not want her daughter associated with a sneak. A lot of parents are like that. As far as the Asian boy...most abusers come across as overly nice and friendly...he may be very nice or, he may be hiding something. Ever hear the term...Too good to be true? Maybe the boy creeped the mom out with his over niceness!

Back off and give the girl and her mom space. Or, take your own advice and contact her mom to make sure that your friend is ok. Talk to a school guidance counselor or your own parents if you fear that she might be in trouble.

One thing I do know...parents know a lot more than you think they do...remember, we were teenagers once to!

Good luck with your friend, I hope she is ok!

 

[Stacykins]

Unfortunately for my parents growing up I was MUCH more computer savvy than they were. Still am. Anyway, monitoring programs are pretty easy to bypass. But my parents never used those programs, the schools did. It was fun beating the systems the school put in place.

My parents were trusting. They didn't feel a need to know my passwords and login information. They basically told me never use my real name, give information out like city, phone numbers, etc. Common sense stuff on the 'net, ya know? And guess what? I wasn't ax murdered. Now I do use my first name on the 'net and at least here on BYC, my city. But if I were to ever meet any BYCers it would be at public places with a family member who has full knowledge of said meeting.

 

[Yard full o' rocks]

My children (both boys BTW) are 12 and 16. NEITHER has, nor will they have a Facebook page or any other Social Media. Too many weird things are said, done, misconstrued, misunderstood, etc via the "written word". Just look at the trouble "public officials" have gotten into recently

They both have cell phones and can call/text anyone they like, individually.

I am afraid that this generation of children is already going to be "tested" since they DON'T KNOW HOW TO TALK TO EACH OTHER. I often wonder how they will function in "real life" when they have to; interview, attend and participate in meetings, make business proposals, etc, etc

Just my opinion....