Parents who have full access to their kid's Facebook account?

[MammaBear]

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This is a pretty funny post!

(fat dude, dirty tightie whities, heheee!)

But I disagree that kids today are lost when it comes to communicating on a truly personal level. Mine aren't on FB 24/7 in fact maybe 1/2 hour a day if that. I truly believe FB is a facilitator to even more communication, not a replacement for communicating. As long as I'm monitoring from a healthy distance (not hovering, not stalking) my kids, I continue to trust them. And they know all about internet safety, in fact my youngest only has about 80 friends, 90% from his school, the other 10% family members. He doesn't randomly accept friend requests, always lets me know when he gets one from someone he doesn't know, and never frequents any sort of chat room. He only communicates with people he knows personally.

I believe there can be a happy medium, and it should be strived for because social networking is a big, big part of the future.

Then I believe you are being a good parent since you are involved with your kids. Using the internet as a tool is a good thing, letting kids live through it is not. I do not feel bad if a child is kept from it, and I don't believe they will suffer an undue consequences from the lack. Letting a child live on the internet is in my opinion a form of neglect.

 

[redhen]

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Uh..nooooo, they hide things because they are doing things they KNOW their parents wouldnt allow.

 

[Sword]

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[MaggieRae]

I was before the whole myspace/facebook thing...
Nevertheless, my mom had an old pc in her office that she would let me get on for games and whatnot. Usually harmless. She was always peering over my shoulder though, and I never begrudged her that. I was a stupid kid, I won't deny it, so I'm thankful for her guidance. Then, schools didn't really teach about online safety and stranger-danger on the web. Luckily, my mom looked out for me.

As far as facebook privacy goes, most of it is pretty public if you're friends with the person. Any parent can see what their child is broadcasting, if they're fb friends.
But as for the original post... The younger the user, the more parental supervision they need, if you ask me. Sometimes kids just don't realize the repercussions of what they're typing, or nowadays, posting and sending.

The older kids get, the level of supervision depends more on trust. My parents trusted me completely, so far as to let me spend weeks on my own when I was 16 and drive my friends (with no parental supervision, I might add) 2 hours away to a cabin with a fully stocked liquor cabinet for a girl's weekend. We didn't drink. We played scrabble. It really all depends on the kids and the parents. Kids will be kids and they need parents to look out for them, or they will get into messes. Heck, some kids will get into messes even with prison wardens for parents just because they want to and that's the type of person they are.

Yeah, okay, confusing answer. I'm going on three hours sleep here. Maybe I'll edit it when I'm more awake.

 

[Dar]

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Uh..nooooo, they hide things because they are doing things they KNOW their parents wouldnt allow.

my son tried to hide stuff.... i found out I sold his computer and now his Ipod touch is blocked from the router cell phone does not have internet access he does not even know the number and when he calls someplace it comes up private number.

NOW.. you need to EARN the right back to have access to these things.

 

[Matthew3590]

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Uh..nooooo, they hide things because they are doing things they KNOW their parents wouldnt allow.

my son tried to hide stuff.... i found out I sold his computer and now his Ipod touch is blocked from the router cell phone does not have internet access he does not even know the number and when he calls someplace it comes up private number.

NOW.. you need to EARN the right back to have access to these things.

How would he go about earning that right?

 

[awesomefowl]

I don't think it is an "invasion of privacy." Parents have a right, and indeed a duty to pay attention to what their kids do on the internet.....as the kids have a responsibility to respect and obey their parents' rules, even if they are annoying. I'm not on FB, because I feel it is a waste of time and I don't have many friends anyway, but if I was I wouldn't mind my mother having access to my account.

 

[Dar]

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my son tried to hide stuff.... i found out I sold his computer and now his Ipod touch is blocked from the router cell phone does not have internet access he does not even know the number and when he calls someplace it comes up private number.

NOW.. you need to EARN the right back to have access to these things.

How would he go about earning that right?

he needs to show he is responsible and respectful.

and first and foremost HONEST!... what I ask where you are doing dont lie to me cause I WILL find out... and by sayind mom we are hanging out at "Sammy's" house and when I come to get you @ sammy's house and I smell something "FUNKY" dont wait for me to ask... tell me what sammys brother was doing and explain then why you did to call and ask to be picked up earlier.

he called me when school let out and there was an after grad party... mom someone bought a bottle of booze can you come get me... on my way! and bing bing bing bonus points for doing the mature and responsible thing

edited for typos.. I think my keyboard is giving out

 

[Moochie]

Facebook is pretty public, if my parents used computers more often and had Facebooks I would add them. True, they can see anything I am posting.
If they had access I wouldn't want them on it every day, I mean hey come on.. Only if you think I'm doing something bad! Although I have many people added from school who vent on Facebook, I'm not going to delete them just because they cuss about an issue of theirs. If they get snippy towards me heck ya I'm going delete them! Alot of teens cuss and I try to see it as a common human behavior. If you're saying bleep in every single sentence that is a bit much.

 

[ranchhand]

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Back to the OP- The bolded part the Korean guy? HUGE red flags there. He's shopping for victims.

The second bolded part? You don't trust your parents to not "go super protecto" on you - so why should they trust you?

As far as the friend not responding, maybe she doesn't want to and is using parents as the excuse? Perhaps she is grounded and doesn't want to admit to it? Embarrassing, ya know. Maybe just let her be, if she really wants, she will find a way. And probably get in trouble again. Don't make it harder.