@emilytb , I can appreciate that. I pray I never need to get up close and personal for medical treatment too much with any of my adopted ducks, as they apparently were not around people much their early days, or maybe they are just standoffish. I can never know. I do know that they get rather anxious if I get closer than five feet away. On the other hand, they do follow me - so it's not like they are frightened most of the time.
Trips to the vet - I herd them into a fence chute into a dog carrier. They don't have to be picked up. None of my ducks likes being picked up, but I know many ducks are more than just a little annoyed by the prospect.
Do what you can, what she will let you do, I pray it works out.