More to the reason why I hate old people! They tend to not care about others, just themselves! I have to work around old people day in and day out. They can be so ignorant! Some are really sweet but most just don't care. Its sad that you have to go threw this :/ Did she sign any kind of contract to stay with you guys?
I used to go visit the local elderly couples and I love to hear their stories about when they were growing up.
Eeeeww.. Look for a roommate to take her place! Look at the bright side, You can find someone younger who you don't have to clean up their.. eeww grossness! I somehow found a great Roommate on CL about a month ago, was terrified I would not be able to pay my mortgage, or at least the way I would have had to of lived to pay it would have sucked.. meaning not 1 extra penny... But I found someone! And I am ok now
and So will you
WOW! This is pretty wrong! I volunteer at the nursing home, and let me tell you, I work with some of the sweetest little ladies ever. I have many times fallen in their laps sobbing at the unfortunate way that their life is ending. I think MANY of them are hardened by the disrespectful way that they have been treated AS they were growing old. I too will grow old one day and I certainly hope that people don't hate me because of my age. WOW!
I'm really sorry to hear this. I sent you a message a few days ago, but it did that thing where it returned it to me. Checking up on your chick problrms. I'm sorry to hear of more crap going on. What a sh*tty way to repay you. I don't think she has any idea what it would be like to do it on her own. I'm sure nothing I can say could help, and I'm sure you've been thinking it out for a long time. Consider a better renter, but I'm sure the loan Will settle. This is just protection, really....you're being purged of her for your own good. It's just the malice and implications that you need to overcome right now, and you will.
Reyvaughn,
I'm so sorry things aren't working out with the housemate. Maybe it just means better things are coming to you, but in a roundabout way.
Did I hear that your sick chicks have stabilized? Crossing my fingers for you.
I feel for you Hon. I've been there, done that...for over 3 years. I finally sent her packing back to the nursing home after she called me everything but a white woman in front of my kids & informed me she was moving the end of the month. My reply was "If you want out so bad, go now." I handed her her purse & cane & called the squad to come get her. I also called her caseworker & doctor & they got her admitted immediately. You just have to know when enough is enough. You go out of your way to help someone & all they want to do it stomp all over you & be a jerk. For your own well-being you just need to know when to stop tolerating it.
There are all types in EVERY generation. You can't make a blanket statement about ANY group of people because people are individuals & no 2 are the same.
**Reyvauhn- I am so truly sorry you are going though this.
..some times we don't always see how much others really do for us. I do understand what it feels like to be taken advantage of. It hurts and you have every right to feel the way you do. I have worked with the elderly, and it is /can be extremely trying. I cannot possibly tell you what to do, but there is always an underlying reason for others behavior, it doesn't make how you are being treated right, but I'm saying, maybe she is having a "real" issue & cannot find the correct way to handle it. Just a thought. You have given her so much of your self & that makes you a very good person. I hope this situation is resolved in a positive way, for everyone.
Thanks everyone. Just for the record, this will be the only time I share this much personal info.
I was fine with it last night because, you know, we've always been there to support HER. I thought about it more and more and started to think about US. Then I got mad. All that woman has put us through and I feel like she used us and pooed on us in the end. Like I said, we asked her from the time she came if she really wanted to come back, first and then if she wanted to stay with us. She had every option to say she wanted to go to a nursing home or stay in the home since June/July 2012.
What bothers me is how nonchalant she is over it all. Like, every thing's all fine and dandy and life is just grand. Her problem is she's lazy and wants to be waited on and catered to. I can't do it. She's loosing her memory, too. I fell bad for her because no one wants her - not even the friend that caused all of this. Not her sister, not her nephews... Well, they do if she has money they can sponge off her. But, then again, I honestly feel she brought it all on herself seeing how she treated us. All she does is whine about how she can't do anything for herself, the divorce is taking to long and how her husband put her in debt. She whines because I won't let her have unhealthy foods because she's not supposed to have them. Here's an example. Last Christmas I made over 15 dozen cookies. I couldn't get her to eat real food and she ate cookies all day long for a week. This year my husband and I were given cookies for a Christmas present and I thought for sure she'd stay away from them because they were a present. No... She can't get up to go to the bathroom, but she could get up and eat all of our present! She doesn't like eating real food. If I put a meal in front of her, she eats maybe 1 1/2c of food total at supper. She can eat 2-3x that at Chinese or any other restaurant. If I put 5 bags of chips in front of her, a bag of chocolates, a dozen cookies, a piece of cake and 2 cupcakes, she'd it it all in less than 6hrs.
We are always financially strapped, so this should be nothing new to me. Just the thought of it all on us by ourselves is driving me insane. When I say we can't do it on our own, I mean it. I can't take on a new roommate. This place actually isn't a 4 bedroom. It's 3 bedrooms with a sun room and a mudroom. My son's room is the mudroom. The sun room has no heat so no one is there. Again, I sacrificed my child's comfort for her.
You guys are right. I would be much happier without her here. I honestly can not stand being around her and I try my hardest to stay away from my own home. The house smells so bad because of her... It would be nice to have my son in an actual room, too. Just, I do not want to move if we do not have to. I don't have it in me to sell my flock. We have so much crap and I actually hyperventilate just thinking about it. I can not do another move. I am sick of moving.
As for the chicks, some are coming around and some are not. I have one still really gasping and they are the younger ones and they usually do not make it. The older ones are showing improvement. The fresh batch of chicks that just hatched Friday are all healthy so far.
