People who are only there when the sun is shining...

[goobhen]

"I have I think two people I can really call my friends. Lot to show for so many years on this earth."
My mom told me if you have friends that you can count on one hand, you are blessed! A lot of people have co-workers, aquaintences, but true, real friends are hard to come by!

Best wishes, Theresa

 

[Fierlin1182]

Thank you.

I sometimes feel like I'm not treating the friends I do have right.
Especially when I'm upset, it's hard to be perfect all the time.

 

[sourland]

"Friend" is a word that is used entirely too much. I am in the eighth decade of my life (neat way of saying that I have turned 70), and I have a lot of acquaintances and associates and 3 people who are true friends. One I am married to and she has my back in all things. The other two I would do anything for and know unequivocally that they would/have done the same. I am truly blessed. You do not have to be perfect for friends. Friends are the people who know you completely and still love you.

 

[chicmom]

Fair weather friends.....Yup, we've all had them. I think it's normal to have only 2 friends that you are super close with and who would be there for you. True friends are rare indeed.

Take care and hugs to you,

Sharon

 

[sheaviance1]

Just have to throw this out there, if you have even one true friend, you are blessed beyond measure.

I have a dear friend, who I don't speak to on a regular basis. Sometimes, we go months without talking. She had a tornado rip through her home. I hadn't talked to her in 8 months at the time, but that morning, she was a burden on my heart, and she wouldn't go away until i called her. I did, and she answered the phone with, "You ain't going to believe what just happened". My hubby and I were there within 30 minutes, breakfast (she has 6 kids) and chainsaws in tow. She has TONS of friends, and a huge church family, but we were the only ones there.

Fast forward 4 years, my Mom is dying. I called Judy to let her know what was going on. She was immediately there, and took over everything in my world so I would be free to do nothing but love and care for my Mom as she spent her last few days on this earth.

I am well and truly blessed to have two friends like that. My bestest bud, Kim, has always been my go-to, and vice versa. We know absolutely every thing there is to know about one another, and she can read me like no one else on this earth. We share more bad times than good times, unfortunately, but we muddle through them together, and she doesn't just tell me what I want to hear, she tells me the bare bones truth, and I love her for it.

 

[Fierlin1182]

Thank you for sharing that, sheaviance. Those are lovely stories

My friend, I haven't seen in person since we were in fifth grade. It's been over six years.
There's an entire email collection I still have stored somewhere... well, let's just say we still know each other as well as ever!

 

[aRoosterNamedSpot]

I am currently experiencing the same thing in my life. I lost my mother in December after a long illness. She was my best friend. Since then I have "deleted" a few people in my life that have caused me pain because they were " takers " and I was a "giver". This includes family and so- called friends. Yes, I am co- dependent- always there whenever they needed me, putting my own needs to the side. One " friend" considered me her best friend-we were inseparable . I was there for her and all her family functions for several years. When it was my turn to be needy, she completely abandoned me. She didn't acknowledge my Mom's death and I haven't heard from her since. People like that are very selfish and only concerned with themselves . I decided I don't need that in my life and am trying to put myself first a little more.
My favorite saying is " surround yourself with the things you love". Well, I love animals, so I have 4 dogs, 3 cats, 2 horses, and 14 chickens!!! They are what makes me happiest right now.

In spite of the pain I have experienced in the last 2 years, I do count my blessings . I have a very loving and supportive husband of 23 years, and 2 wonderful teenagers who have taught me a lot.

It could always be worse.....

 

[Fierlin1182]

I'm sorry you had to go through that!
Like the Beyonce song goes... when something bad happens, people like that tend to show their a$$

Lucky you, with all your animals! I'm still trying to figure out what I love.

 

[kevinhannan]

...Love yourself first is always said...

Give yourself some peace and don't sweat the flakey friends
and get on with something that makes you happy ;-)