And just a note if I haven't said enough. It's funny that u mention role reversal for the females. For most of this time my gray one would pick on my black female. Until recent, tables have turned the black one chases and picks on the gray one. The black one will make that sound like the male makes when courting and stretches her neck up while making this noise. Very confusing. Also we built a nesting box in the coop the 2 females have been laying an egg just about every day for a year now. Now the black aggressive female now spends all day in the nesting box whether I've taken the eggs out or not. And I may add I can't just reach in the box to get the egg both females r very very aggressive when in the nesting box.
Sounds familiar. Turkeys can make great pets, but most don't. I've had both sorts. So I do understand the pet angle as well as the livestock one.
As you have noticed the females can be terrible companions for one another, I've even had one hen kill another hen. She hated to be without a female companion but also hated every female companion she ever had, even her own daughters. She basically hated the world, lol, extreme anxiety and aggression which got worse and worse the older she got even though she started out normal. She ended up attacking me too, and killing her own babies, went from being a great mother to a waste of resources. Fox got her before I could finish her detrimental legacy. Psycho, but just following a very common trend I've seen in many turkeys, for deleterious behavior to be adopted and accelerate with age with no apparent reason (other than that it was a trait observed in their recent progenitors, which is ample 'reason' and advance warning once you know how strong those heritable social traits actually are). Quite often the fault is not the owner nor their actions or husbandry methods, something it's taken me a while to fully accept, as initially I'd buy from vicious stock thinking I could alter this within the next generations... Waste of time and a foolish risk to boot... It's the fault of the breeder/s of the previous 7 or so generations, and there's almost nothing you can do to stop them becoming as they were bred to be, not within a few short generations anyway as a general rule of thumb.
Some males I had, from two family lines, became violent to the females after their first year of age, just went without warning from being normal and harmless to attacking; likewise they became violent to babies, never had problems before, but with age they turned vicious.
They're often not the easiest livestock... They're easy, and no trouble, till they're suddenly not. Never a steady keel with them.
The behavior you're describing sounds like threat vocalizations, and the male shouldn't be making that noise at the females; it's not normal courting behavior at all. Chances are that's why he's removing feathers etc, he's rough because he's got mixed/ confused mating/ fighting instincts, it's not uncommon at all. Very common in fact. If he's never met another male there's a chance he has no idea of gender roles and social boundaries, in the absence of examples and experience they can be very socially confused and combine everything into one basket so to speak.
Sounds to me like you may be better off looking into some new pets, things are fairly likely to continue to get worse going by my experience with turkeys. Even a female turkey attacking you is nothing to scoff at, she's very capable of harming you. My hens which began to show aggression on the nest eventually escalated to launching attacks at my face from the side or behind. Culling them was no longer an option, it was a necessity.
If you can keep birds without being allergic to them, there are many birds which will give you greater enjoyment than these.
Best wishes.