Prayer for a Member - Lost her daughter Update Pg 16

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Wegotchickens - My heart is aching for you and your family. I can't imagine your pain. You're still in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[chickenzoo]

I wish I could say something to help your pain, but I can not. There are no words that can heal that deeply. Know that you are loved, that you are needed and that you are special. I understand some of your hardship, but not all, but the little that I do, I weep for you. I pray that you find the strength to heal, to help your daughter and DH heal, and continue being the special person that you are. May God keep his hand on your shoulder and remind you that you are not alone................

 

[PineBurrowPeeps]

Wegotchickens....

I just don't even know where to begin. I want to hug you and stroke your hair and make you a cup of tea. Your poor family.
My father tried to commit suicide 6 times when I was a child. I still have every one of his suicide notes. What a heartbreaking and devestating thing it is.
I cannot imagine your pain and your poor DD. Not much on here makes me literally cry in real life but this has got me choking back sobs, I know how devestated I was when I lost my son late into his pregnancy and I cannot imagine how much I would have gone nuts if I had known him 16 years.

Something I wanted to tell you though:

It's OK to fall apart. After I lost my baby, I tried to keep it together for weeks and I walked around feeling like a pressure cooker worrying about my DH and other kids.
Well one night I just lost it and I ended up in the ER with a nervous breakdown.
DON'T let it build up that bad. Once I feel apart and literally, I came apart in pieces and puddles of tears and it wasn't pretty. I could start to get back into some normalcy.
Sometimes you need to tear everything down and start over to make things bearable.

Please take care of yourself and be gentle with one another. Maybe after all is said and done you should take a couple of days and go somewhere with your family. Get away for a little bit. Even just a day trip.
You deserve it hun.

We are all thinking of you and praying for you.
Hang in there.

 

[The Chicken People]

Wegotchickens...My heart is hurting and my eyes are not dry! Prayers are with you and yours! I lost my son at 5 1/2 hours old! Its not not the length of life they lived..its whose heart they touched! I am glad you and your dd are getting counseling! I only went to one support group meeting but it helped! Sometimes its really bad especially around sept 18th! Sometimes I feel so alone..so if you ever feel that way and need to talk just pm me or anyone on here! You are so loved!

 

[Ol'FashionHen]

You and your family are in our prayers.

May God bless you and give you strength.

 

[Iowa Roo Mom]

Wegotthechickens-

I am so very sorry for what you and your family are going through. When I was 15, my best friend in the whole world, someone I spent more time with than my own brother, comitted suicide. My parents sat me down at the table in the kitchen at 7:30PM that night, January 28, 1998, and told me the news. I will never forget that night. Never.
We rode the bus to his house together- had a snowball fight- talked about high school (I was in junior high, he was a freshman) The last words he said to me as I was walking to my mother's van was, "Hey! When you walk through the doors of the high school on your first day, you're gonna hear, 'Freshman Suck!' and I'm gonna be the one to say it!"
The worst part of High School was not hearing him say that.
I blamed myself. "What if I had talked to him? What if I had noticed that one thing that made him "off" that day and asked him what was up?" I was his BEST FRIEND!!! I SHOULD HAVE SEEN SOMETHING!!!
It has been almost 12 years now. I still miss him dearly. I miss him every day. EVERY DAY. I don't think the feelings of guilt ever went away, I think they buried themself deep down- and even that took years. IF for some reason, you or your DD has feelings of guilt, try not to let them go on forever (if there is a way not to) I made the mistake of NOT talking about my feelings to my parents. I skipped councelling sessions. I THOUGHT I could handle it on my own.

All I can do is pray for you. I pray that God holds you and your family during this horrible time... and that you can, somehow, find moments- however brief- to find comfort, somewhere.

There are no words that can express our sorrow for your family- please just know that if you ever need to talk about ANYTHING, your BYC family is here for you.

Terrah

 

[Cetawin]

Lori...my darling lady.

I did not know it was your child when my prayers, I have been praying so hard. I cannot express the sadness I feel for you and the pain you are going through. If I could take some of it away and place it upon myself ... I would.

There are no words of wisdom, nothing to make you feel better and no justification for any of it. Know that we care and are praying for your family, your DD, your healing and a better future for your family.

Edited to add: Lori, Kerry is with you darling...just not within the sight of your eyes. See with your heart.

 

[Barnyard]

I just don't know what to say...... I just want to hop in my van and drive to Tennessee and take you and your family and wrap you in my arms and just cry!! MY heart aches for you. I pray that day by day things will get easier.....

I have not lost a child....but my sister has..... for 24 day's I stayed at the hospital with her..... it was not easy and she still to this day, 10 years later, has a hard time dealing with it. You never forget, but it does get easier to deal with.

 

[SuziQ991]

I am so sorry for you loss. As I said before, I lost my son 2 years ago and I know your heartache. I also have a teenage daughter who took it very hard. If you want to talk, please let me know. I will give you my phone number. I belong to a Bereaved Parent support group that helps very much. I looked it up and unfortunately there is not one in your area. But there is another group called Compassionate Friends in Tenn. I am not sure where you are but here is the link, you can look it up: http://www.compassionatefriends.org/Local_Chapters/Chapter_Locator.aspx. I sincerely hope you go to a meeting. It helps so much to talk to other people who know exactly what you are going through. You need to talk, talk, talk. And cry as much as you want to. I felt uncomfortable crying in front of my family so I walked to my barn and cried. Do what ever you have to. It is so hard, I know. We don't get over this.....we survive it. Please let me know if I can help.
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[jerseygirl1]

I am so very, very sorry for your loss