Prayer for a Member - Lost her daughter Update Pg 16

[dlhunicorn]

my prayers are with you...
I just saw this as I have not been able to devote as much time on the internet having similar problems with teen last year...
I will include you in my prayers at the little chapel that I visit weekly to light a candle. This chapel predates the oldest church here in The Netherlands (4th century AD) and candles/prayers have been offered here for over a thousand years ... (((hugs))) Diana

 

[4hooves&featheredfriends]

A special place will be held in our prayers for you and your family.

 

[dun chick]

I'm thinking alot about you these days and your little girl cassie. I am so sorry the trouble she is having at her school, kids can be so mean sometimes. I wish I could hug you both and tell you everything will be okay. It will, but sometimes the steps to get there are so long. You are in my prayers every night and day..

 

[chickenzoo]

Kids can be so mean. I'm sorry she has had some trouble with schoolmates, but glad that others stuck up for her. When I was nine my father died. When I was eating lunch, a bunch of girls were giggling and one came up to me and asked "if I was going to get a new one". Kids can be cruel, I never forgave them. Hugs to you and your family. I hope you do go and speak to people in your situation. Know that when someone is set on doing this to themselves, their is nothing you can do. All the help, all the love in the world won't stop some people from going through with it. You may postpone it for awhile, but later it is their choice and their is no way to keep someone in a bubble, to keep them safe from themselves. You are in my prayers and heavy in my heart.

 

[gypsy2621]

I am so sorry for your loss.
I asked a friend for this picture so I could show you there is always a way for those we lost to see us and we can feel them watching over us.

The song "Holes in the Floor of Heaven is shown in this Photo.
I hope it brings some confort.

 

[babylady4]

If the daughter had a facebook page, mom can have access to it and request that it become a memorial page.

Just an idea.

 

[tonini3059]

Quote:
That is what happened when a girl I went to school with committed suicide because her boyfriend dumped her. It is a beautiful memorial page now.

 

[Kelly G]

I have thought about you and your family all weekend.

I wish you strenght and comfort.

 

[wegotchickens]

I am terribly saddened that so many people have felt this pain. And I appreciate all your kind words of support. This really never will go away.
Dianna, thanks for lighting a candle for my family ((hugs)).

This past weekend was bittersweet.

On Friday a group of Kerry's friends came by to meet with me. They wanted to visit but also had a request. They'd like a momento from her. While I'd had that thought, and plan to do it, now is way too soon. They were understanding and supportive. We talked for over an hour before the 4 of them left.

Then DH, Cassie and I went to Charleston and met up with my sis and her 5-year old daughter. It was a little easier there, although I still fell apart a couple of times. We went to museums and restaurants and I guided my niece around so that her mommy could enjoy soaking in the area history. A hug from a 5-year old has a magic all it's own. Arguing whether or not something is art with a 5-year old is very distracting. I have to agree; Some of it was 'smears' and not art LOL.

Cassie has been in love with comedy shows for ages, but had never seen one live. I took her to a small improv theatre in Charleston Saturday night. It was just she & I but DH drove us there and back. I was lectured by my child for having a glass of wine before the show began. Then she threw me to the wolves during the show! They wanted a volunteer, but would only take one over the age of 18. So volunteering ME was her next best thing. I was later told I was one of the more interesting volunteers they'd ever had

Apparently not a lot of hobby chicken breeder/show folk had ever been in the area before. Cassie interjected a LOT from the audience, so they lampooned her as well as me & the chickens during their skit. She loved it.
I'm grateful for a theatre background and the glass of wine. Between the two I was very composed and able to be lighthearted.

Then yesterday we had to come back home

I could see that it hit my daughter as hard as it hit me, and that really tore me up. DH is hiding his own pain better now, and worrying about me instead. I kept myself together until Cassie went to bed, but it was a very long night.
If I didn't have my daughter and husband I don't think I could keep moving and breathing.

Kerry didn't have a facebook page, just MySpace. And according to an e-mail they sent, they won't turn HER page into a memorial page. Only delete it.

 

[BarkerChickens]

While her Myspace page can't be turned into a memorial, it can be left open. A friend of mine's brother died suddenly and their family stayed in touch via Myspace. After a couple years, they still keep his page active and leave comments and prayers to him on the page. It is touching to see his daughter leave comments of all the things in her life that she'd like to share with him on his page.

As much as I'd like to say that I feel your pain....I can't. I have lost loved ones, but I can't imagine the pain of losing a child. Kerry was very loved and she knows it now. She no longer hurts inside and gets to be with her father. She may not be you physically anymore, but her spirit is still here. My prayers continue to go out to you and your family.