Prayer for a Member - Lost her daughter Update Pg 16

[Zookeeper9000]

I have been saying extra prayers for everyone and will continue to say them.


I would also like to add that foster parents are always needed. And if you take in babies most of the time you will end up being able to adopt.

 

[mmtillman]

Lord God..please wrap this family in your loving arms and help them to find understanding in this loss. Give them peace in the hard days ahead.............Amen

 

[kargo]

I said a prayer for you guys last night. I won't say I understand, because I don't believe I do. Every situation is unique, and I'll never understand. But I can say that I kind of know where you are coming from. My dad died in January, and a few months before, one of my friends comitted suicide. I can't quite imagine what you are going through.

 

[wegotchickens]

I can't believe its been a while month now since I lost my Kerry-girl.
Still hurts as bad as it did that day. I've cried myself sick the past couple of days.

Found an art class for Cassie that meets after school, but only one day a week. Will still help break things up though. Especially since she has counseling twice a week.
And she tells me she's okay with coming home alone, and needs some alone time in fact. So I let her do that Tues & Wed. But then this morning I saw her blankie in her bed. She hasn't slept with it since she was 5. I didn't think she even still knew where it was. And the waterworks came on again, because her big sis gave her that blankie...

Started making calls yesterday to get some counseling. I'm not doing well, and I'm afraid I'll slap the next person who compliments me on how strong I am. I was amazed at the rage I felt towards a good friend who said that. I controlled myself and didn't hurt her feelings, but I clearly need to get some help before I totally 'drop my basket'.

Hubby must be really worried about me too. He actually sounded happy that the blues are laying again and said he'd set up a place for the incubator this weekend. Poor guy hated to leave me this morning, and I know he'll be worrying about me all day.

Thanks for the prayers and PM's ya'll. In the group meeting the leader said that there was a study on grief and grieving, and that they found you have to tell your story close to 800 times before you really start to feel like you're healing. Re-reading your kind words and support, and your own stories of loss, has made me feel less alone. Ya'll are the greatest

 

[Barnyard]

Hang in there Lori....... We are all praying for you!!!

 

[Zookeeper9000]

Thank you for updating us as you don't leave my mind for long and I am sure I am not alone in this.

Strong has nothing to do with surviving grief, but as a single mom myself I never felt I could just fall apart, for one thing my kids have only seen me cry twice and it freaked them out to the max. And they are between the ages of 17 and 28.


I save my tears for the shower.

You hang in there girl. I am so glad you have your husband to help you learn to live with your grief and support both you and your daughter.

Praying for you and yours.

 

[ChicknJ]

Ms Lori, I haven't posted on here, but my heart breaks into a million little pieces for you every time I read this thread. If telling it 800 or 8000 times helps you then keep telling. We will always listen to you and listen for you. You need the outlet so you can continue helping your Cassie. I am so glad she is articulating some of her needs. The art classes are a great idea. It's always seems to be 2 steps forward and one step backwards , and that's ok.

Those feelings about wanting to scream when somene say's you are so strong are ok to have. Sometimes you have to rage. If I was standing in front of you as a friend, I would tell you, rage on, I am a friend enough to accept and carry your rage, if only for a moment, if it helps you to keep putting one foot in front of the other.

I read about your dh , I am glad you have someone close, worrying about you. You have to have that person in your corner, A soft place to land. I don't know how to say, please accept my sympathy, because sympathy doesn't even come close to desrcibing how I feel for you and your family. So, please accept my love from afar, I wish you all love.

 

[Sjisty]

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When I lost my son, a lot of people told me that, too. It also made me angry. You get through each day as best as you can. That isn't strong (or weak), it just is what it is. Some days I didn't get out of bed, some days I did.

Healing will be slow. Don't let people tell you how you should feel!

 

[babymakes6]

Lori, I haven't posted on here much either, simply because I don't feel I have much of anything to say that can help you and I don't want to say the wrong thing. I do want you to know that you are never far from my thoughts and prayers! We will all listen as long as you need an ear.

 

[thechickenchick]

Lori I am also unsure of what to say. I just want you to know you are always on my mind and my heart aches for you and your family.

I agree with others, it is wonderful that you have a spouse that you can lean on. Its true that you need to tell your story over and over and.... . If you feel you just have to talk about it, then do that, if there is nobody to listen, write it down.

Keep pushing through each day sweetie.