I'm continuing to pray for you and your DD and the rest of your loved ones during the difficult days ahead. Know that you will be covered in prayer, especially with the holidays rapidly appraoching. I can't imagine the grief you are carrying right now. You sound like such a strong person, and yet your mother's heart must be aching terribly. I am so very sorry.
Hi Lori! I too continue to pray for you and your family, and her friends. It seems from this thread there are alot of people that are keeping you lifted up!!!!!
Had a major crying jag smack me down the night of the 5th. To the point where I woke hubby up despite trying to be quiet. Had him and the cat both trying to console me. He was hugging me and I couldn't get my arms free and the cat kept smacking me in the face with her tail as she went round and round in circles pressed against my other shoulder. Ever laughed while bawling your eyes out? It's a weird feeling. But so's a cat's fluffy tail in your mouth and eyes every 5 seconds... I finally calmed down enough to sleep.
Delivered some pictures of Kerry to the school on 10/7. Couldn't do more then set them on the desk in the office. Fought back tears all the way to the car.
Then I delivered an envelope to one of Kerry's girlfriend's. Inside was a card for her, invites to Cassie's pre-Halloween costume party for all 7 of the kids, and clipped to one boy's invite was a small card from me inviting him to give me a call sometime and that I'd missed seeing him.
Well, that particular boy called me last night. He's the one I've been worrying about and I am so grateful he called. He told me over and over again that he was honored that I was thinking about him and touched that I cared enough to send a card. He admitted that he knows his antipathy towards one of K's friends has been childish and disruptive, but that he will get over it. And that he will be there the next time everyone comes over. And he will be there for Cassie's party as well. That eased my heart a little.
And my heart needed some easing
Cassie's grade card was especially poor in 2 classes, and I had a conference with her teachers yesterday. I understand the make-up for the week she was out was very intimidating for her, and I'm not upset that not all the work got done. But she's been lying to me about some other work, in particular about her science project. Rather than hash it out completely, I discussed it with her for a few minutes and then changed the subject. I want her counselor in on this one, and Cassie had a dinner date with a close friend last night.
So Cassie went out with our family friend, and hubby and I went to our 2nd Suicide Survivors meeting last night. We met a sweet lady who lost her mom to suicide Sept 15th. And learned about a Suicide Awareness quilt being made, and that I could have a square sewn into it on behalf of Kerry. They've made 3 of these quilts so far. I need to look online and see what they're like.
This morning I went to Kerry's niche and hung some beaded ribbons on the sconce in front of her plaque. The ribbons are purple, with butterfly-shaped glass beads and metal butterfly charms strung on them. They make a nice wind-chime noise when they bump together. The flowers and such seemed too plain and quiet to me. Now there will be movement and quiet noise when the wind blows.